                   IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF NORTH CAROLINA

                                             No. COA18-66

                                        Filed: 2 October 2018

Mecklenburg County, No. 07-CVD-314

AMY S. GRISSOM, Plaintiff,

                  v.

DAVID I. COHEN, Defendant.


        Appeal by plaintiff from order entered 9 October 2017 by Judge Matthew J.

Osman in District Court, Mecklenburg County. Heard in the Court of Appeals 4 June

2018.


        James, McElroy & Diehl, P.A., by Preston O. Odom, III, and Jonathan D. Feit,
        for plaintiff-appellant.

        Womble Bond Dickinson LLP, by H. Stephen Robinson; Kevin L. Miller; and
        Tom Bush, for defendant-appellee.


        STROUD, Judge.


        Plaintiff Amy S. Grissom (“Mother”) appeals from the trial court’s order

holding that defendant David I. Cohen (“Father”) is not in civil contempt of a prior

custody order based upon the refusal of the parties’ daughter, Mary,1 to return to the

physical custody of Mother. The trial court first entered an order denying Mother’s

motion for contempt on 17 August 2016, but this order did not include findings of fact



        1   We use pseudonyms to protect the identity of the parties’ children.
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necessary to permit review by this Court, so we vacated that order and remanded for

the trial court to enter a new order including findings of fact to support its conclusion.

We affirm.

                                        I.       Background

        This appeal arises from an exceptionally contentious and prolonged custody

battle between Mother and Father, beginning in January 2007 and continuing, with

a few lulls, ever since. The parties are the parents of two children; the oldest, their

son John, had just turned 18 before Mother filed her contempt motion, and the

contempt motion and order in this appeal applies only to their daughter, Mary, now

age 17. We will not recount the details of this battle leading up to the order on appeal,

but in brief summary, the first custody order entered in 2009 granted sole legal and

primary physical custody to Mother and secondary custodial time to Father.2

Father’s decision-making authority regarding the children was severely curtailed by

this order based upon Father’s misdeeds as described in the order. There were some

relatively minor legal skirmishes after the 2009 order, with no major changes to the

custodial arrangement until 9 March 2015, when the trial court entered an order

modifying the 2009 custody order (“2015 Modified Custody Order”). Generally, the




        2  Mother’s counsel described the history in his closing argument, stating that he first wanted
to “remind the Court . . . that [Father] has created nine years of litigation, has filed three motions to
modify custody, has participated in two three-week custody trials, has involved the children with
subpoenas, affidavits, live testimony last time and this time. There have been four judges, 636 findings
of fact in two custody orders.” And now, we can add two appeals to this tally.

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2015 Modified Custody Order found that Father’s behavior and relationship with the

children had improved and the children wanted to spend more time with him. The

2015 Modified Custody Order allowed Father to have greater visitation time with the

two children.

       On 10 June 2016, Mother filed a motion she calls an “Omnibus Motion,”

comprising a motion for civil and criminal contempt, a motion for a temporary

restraining order (“TRO”) and preliminary injunction, and a motion for “judicial

assistance.” The Omnibus Motion is single-spaced and 17 pages long. Five and a half

pages summarize the procedural history, including quotes from portions of prior

orders, with particular emphasis on any findings unflattering to Father.                         The

substantive portion of the Omnibus Motion begins at the bottom of page 5 and is

entitled “Withholding of Plaintiff/Mother’s Physical Custodial Time and Alienation.”

Mother then makes four pages of allegations, some “upon information and belief,” of

Father’s actions and statements she alleges are part of his “campaign to alienate the

children from Plaintiff/Mother,” which has “intensified after the Court’s most recent

Custody Order and has resulted in the children being severely alienated from

Plaintiff/Mother.”3 She stresses her belief that Father has encouraged the children




       3  John had attained the age of 18 years old two months before Mother filed the Omnibus
Motion, but he was still a minor as of January 2016 and at the time of most of the events described in
the motion. Thus, when we refer to the “children,” we are referring to both John and Mary, but we
realize that John was an adult when the Omnibus Motion was filed and he was no longer subject to
the 2015 Modified Custody Order at that time.

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not to return to her and that he has not “caused the children to face any consequences

for their failure” to return to her home. She alleged that in January 2016, she

received an email from John, which was copied to Father; Dr. Shulstad, the children’s

pediatrician; Samantha Bosco, the guidance counselor at Mary’s high school, and

Janani Buford, the guidance counselor at Mary’s middle school. John said Mary had

confided to him a few days before that she was self-harming by cutting herself, and

she had been doing this for about a year. He believed that she “needed serious help”

and needed “to be in as positive of an environment as possible.” John also stated:

             After almost ten years of moving back and forth constantly,
             and my 18th birthday coming quickly, I feel that I am
             mature and reasonable enough to make my own decisions.
             I have spoken with [Mary] and I feel that it is best if we
             spent time solely with Dad. [Mary] and I both love you very
             much. I would still like to see you and sustain a good
             relationship with you, but this current situation is just too
             difficult for me and [Mary] to cope with. I hope that you
             will understand and respect our decision just as we have
             understood and respected yours for almost a decade.

John claimed Mary asked Mother if she could see a therapist but her Mother ignored

her; Mother denied that Mary ever requested to see a therapist. At the time of this

email, the children had been with Father since 28 December 2015 for holiday

visitation and they did not return to Mother’s home afterwards except for some brief

visits; they did not stay overnight. Mother alleged this email was another example

of Father’s campaign to destroy her relationship with the children. She alleged that

Father was encouraging the children not to return to Mother’s home and that he gave


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them no consequences for their refusal. She alleged that despite the children’s refusal

to return to her home, he “rewards” Mary by continuing to allow her to have

sleepovers with friends, buy clothing, keep her phone, and take vacations. She

alleged that the children were “hostile” and “cruel” to her, just as Father has been.

      The next section of the motion is entitled “Refusal to Support [Mary’s]

Attendance in Therapy, Failure to Apprise Plaintiff/Mother of [Mary’s] Condition,

And Attempt to Obtain [Mary’s] Therapeutic Records.” Mother describes her efforts

to find a therapist for Mary after receiving the email from John and Mary’s opposition

to seeing the therapist she selected, alleging that Mary’s reluctance was caused by

Father’s “influencing [Mary] to further his own goals.” Mary did ultimately see the

therapist Mother selected, Ms. Reed, although she “continues to be reluctant.” She

alleged that on 2 February 2016, Mary “refused to leave school to attend an

appointment with Ms. Reed,” and Mother took her to see Dr. Shulstad, who

discovered eight or nine “fresh cuts on [Mary’s] leg.” She notes this cutting occurred

while Mary was with Father. Dr. Shulstad encouraged Mary to see Ms. Reed, and

although she refused at times, she attended some appointments “when forced to do

so by Dr. Shulstad or when she wants something (such as medical authorization to

attend a summer camp).”

      The next section of the motion is entitled “Interfering with Educational

Decisions” and includes about a page of allegations of the parties’ disputes regarding



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Father taking Mary to tour boarding schools during the previous summer. The

following section is entitled “Motion for Contempt.” It has five paragraphs, alleging

his willful violation of the order and requesting that Father be held in civil and

criminal contempt.

      The next section of the motion is entitled, “Motion for Temporary Restraining

Order and Preliminary Injunction.”         Mother requested that the court enter a

Temporary Restraining Order and Preliminary Injunction enjoining Father “from

interfering with” Mother’s custodial rights and “authority to made medical and

mental health decisions” for Mary; from taking Mary to “tour any additional schools”

or talking to her or assisting her in any way regarding her application or attendance

at any school; and from showing “these Motions and any subsequent Orders to the

parties’ children” or talking about them. She also asked that Father be required to

“return [Mary] to” her physical custody and “to support [Mary’s] attendance at

reunification therapy and counseling with the therapist” of Mother’s choice.

      The last section of the motion is entitled “Motion for Judicial Assistance” and

Mother moved for the court to “facilitate intensive reunification therapy.”

      The prayer for relief is two pages long. In pertinent part, Mother requested

issuance of a show cause order directing that a hearing be held and that Father “show

cause as to why he should not be held in contempt of the March 2015 Custody Order.”

She also requested that the court



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            3. Find Defendant/Father in civil contempt of court and
            punish him as set forth in N.C.G.S. § 5A-21 et seq. until he
            can demonstrate a willingness to comply with the Court’s
            March 2015 Custody Order.
            4. Find Defendant/Father in criminal contempt of court
            and punish him as set forth in N.C.G.S. § 5A-12 as a result
            of his willful failure to comply with the provisions of the
            March 2015 Custody Order.

      Mother specifically asked for a list of “mechanisms” to enforce the Order and

“as purging conditions” of contempt. This list includes several continuing actions,

including that he “exert his parental authority and control”: to ensure that [Mary]

returns to” her custody and stays there; to ensure that Mary attends counseling, to

ensure that Mary attends reunification therapy; and to ensure that Mary

communicates with Mother while in Father’s care. Mother also asked that Father be

required to permit Mother to “make up the custodial parenting time missed since

January 4, 2016.”

      On 13 June 2016, Mother filed and served Father with a Notice of Hearing for

28 June 2016 on “Plaintiff/Mother’s Motion for Contempt filed June 10, 2016.” On 14

June 2016, the trial court entered an Order to Show Cause requiring Father to appear

and show cause why he should not be held in civil or criminal contempt. Father

requested continuance of the hearing to allow more time to prepare, but his motion

was denied, and the trial court held a hearing on the contempt motion and order to

show cause on 28 June 2016.

      As this Court noted in the prior appeal, “At the 28 June 2016 show cause


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hearing, the trial court did not allow Mother to proceed on both civil and criminal

contempt, requiring Mother to choose to pursue either civil or criminal contempt.

Accordingly, Mother chose to proceed on her civil contempt motion against Father.”

Grissom v. Cohen, __ N.C. App. __, 803 S.E.2d 697, at *2 (2017) (unpublished)

(“Grissom I”). The trial court entered its first order finding Father not to be in civil

contempt which was reversed by the first appeal and remanded for findings of fact:

               The trial court’s order, though, is devoid of any specific
               factual findings regarding Father’s actions concerning the
               issue of Father’s willfulness. In order for us to conduct any
               meaningful review of the trial court’s determination
               regarding Father’s willfulness, we must know what facts
               the trial court found to make that ultimate finding.
               Therefore, we remand the matter and direct the trial court
               to enter specific factual findings regarding whether
               Father’s actions were willful. For instance, if the trial
               court enters findings that Father did not force or encourage
               his children to stay with him during Mother’s time with the
               children, such findings would support the trial court’s
               ultimate finding that Father did not act willfully, and the
               trial court would not be required to hear any additional
               evidence on the matter.

Grissom I, __ N.C. App. __, 803 S.E.2d 697, at *5 (citation omitted).

       On 9 October 2017, the trial court entered a new order (“Order on Remand”)

with detailed findings of fact and conclusions of law4 without receiving additional

evidence. Mother timely appealed.

                                        II.    Analysis


       4 The trial court has entered orders addressing the other motions in the Omnibus Motion and
those orders are not the subject of this appeal.

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      Mother argues the trial court “erred by failing to hold Father in civil contempt

for effectively eliminating Mother’s primary custody of their daughter.” She claims

to challenge 22 of the 37 findings of fact in the order and 7 of the legal conclusions.

Although she argues she is challenging the findings of fact, she does not argue that

the findings are not supported by the evidence. Instead, she contends the trial court’s

findings are in error because it (1) “misallocated the burden of proof;” (2)

“Misapprehended the express and implied requirements of the Modified Custody

Order,” specifically arguing that the order is a “forced visitation” order;” and (3) erred

by determining that “Father committed no willful violation of the modified custody

order” based upon the trial court’s misunderstanding of “willfulness” in this context.

She makes the bold and legally impossible request that this Court make the factual

determination that “Father willfully violated the Modified Custody Order” and to

“remand . . . for a new fact-finder to consider additional evidence regarding whether

Father remains in civil contempt.” We cannot do this, since it is the trial court, not

our Court, which is “entrusted with the duty to hear testimony, weigh and resolve

any conflicts in the evidence, [and] find the facts[.]” State v. Cooke, 306 N.C. 132, 134,

291 S.E.2d 618, 620 (2015). Mother requests in the alternative that we “remand for

a new fact-finder to conduct a new contempt hearing with detailed instructions

indicating that [Hancock v. Hancock, 122 N.C. App. 518, 471 S.E.2d 415 (1996)] and




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its progeny do not control.”5

       This Court does not conduct wholesale de novo review of contempt orders, as

Mother seems to request. Instead, “[t]he standard of review for contempt proceedings

is limited to determining whether there is competent evidence to support the findings

of fact and whether the findings support the conclusions of law.” Sharpe v. Nobles,

127 N.C. App. 705, 709, 493 S.E.2d 288, 291 (1997). “However, findings of fact to

which no error is assigned are presumed to be supported by competent evidence and

are binding on appeal. The trial court’s conclusions of law drawn from the findings

of fact are reviewable de novo.” Tucker v. Tucker, 197 N.C. App. 592, 594, 679 S.E.2d

141, 142-43 (2009) (citations, quotation marks, and brackets omitted). Since Mother

has challenged none of the findings of fact as unsupported by the evidence, but argues

only that the trial court “misapprehended” the law, we will review de novo the trial

court’s “apprehension of the law” to determine if the trial court considered the issues

under the correct legal standards. See generally id. If the trial court considered the

issues based upon the correct law, we will review the legal conclusions to determine

if they are supported by the findings of fact. Id.

       The trial court may find a party in civil contempt for failure to follow a court

order under N.C. Gen. Stat. § 5A-21, which provides :

               (a) Failure to comply with an order of a court is a

       5  Mother has not suggested any impropriety by the trial court and we cannot discern any
conceivable legal basis for her request for a “new fact-finder.” Mother asks for remand and she asks
not only for another bite at the apple -- she wants a new apple also.

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             continuing civil contempt as long as:
             (1) The order remains in force;
             (2) The purpose of the order may still be served by
             compliance with the order;
             (2a) The noncompliance by the person to whom the order is
             directed is willful; and
             (3) The person to whom the order is directed is able to
             comply with the order or is able to take reasonable
             measures that would enable the person to comply with the
             order.

N.C. Gen. Stat. § 5A-21(a) (2017).

      A.     Burden of Proof

      Mother first argues the trial court improperly placed the burden of proof of civil

contempt on her and not on Father. She notes correctly that “A show cause order in

a civil contempt proceeding which is based on a sworn affidavit and a finding of

probable cause by a judicial official shifts the burden of proof to the defendant to show

why he should not be held in contempt.” State v. Coleman, 188 N.C. App. 144, 149-

50, 655 S.E.2d 450, 453 (2008). The trial court entered the14 June 2016 Show Cause

Order based on Mother’s Omnibus Motion, so Father had the burden to show why he

should not be held in contempt under the show cause order. Id. But Mother had also

filed and served a separate notice of hearing on 13 June 2016 on the motion for

contempt; on that motion and notice of hearing, the burden of proof was on her. See

N.C. Gen. Stat. § 5A-23(a1) (“The burden of proof in a hearing pursuant to this

subsection shall be on the aggrieved party.”).

      Mother argues that the trial court improperly placed the burden on her based


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upon the following conclusion of law in Order on Remand: “5. As a matter of law,

Mother failed to prove by a preponderance of the evidence that Father was in

violation of the Modified Custody Order; nor has Mother met her burden of proving

that Father is in civil contempt.” (Emphasis added). The Order on Remand also

included several other conclusions of law that Father was not in willful contempt.

Three were included in the section of the order entitled “Conclusions of Law:”

             3. As a matter of law, Father has not willfully violated the
             Order with his actions such that he is in civil contempt, as
             alleged by Mother.
             ...
             7. Father is not in civil contempt of Court.
             8. Mother’s motion for Contempt should be denied.

At least two others were included within the Findings of Fact:

             35. Father is not in civil contempt.
             36. Mother’s motion for civil contempt should be denied.

      Mother also argues that it would be “problematic to simply reverse based on

the burden-misallocation and remand for an unguided reconsideration,” because of

Mary’s “fast-approaching eighteenth birthday.” She therefore requests this Court to

make new factual determinations based upon the allegations in her verified motion -

- which we cannot do, and would not do if we could -- or that we remand for a complete

do-over with a different judge. Even if there was any legal basis for a complete do-

over -- and there is not -- remand for an entirely new trial would be unlikely to

accomplish Mother’s purpose of having a new order before Mary turns 18. We



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appreciate her urgency to have the assistance of the courts in reestablishing her

relationship with Mary, but we must review the order on appeal in compliance with

the correct standards of review.6 See generally Sharpe, 127 N.C. App. at 709, 493

S.E.2d at 291; Tucker, 197 N.C. App. at 594, 679 S.E.2d at 142-43 (2009).

       We agree the trial court’s various conclusions of law are confusing, and the

trial court probably should not have used the words “her burden” in the order. Taken

out of context, these words create Mother’s argument that the trial court

“misapprehended” the law and placed the burden on her. See Tigani v. Tigani, __

N.C. App. __, __, 805 S.E.2d 546, 549-50 (2017) (“N.C. Gen. Stat. § 5A-23(a) (2015)

provides that a proceeding for civil contempt may be initiated by the order of a judicial

official directing the alleged contemnor to appear and show cause why he should not

be held in civil contempt, or by the notice of a judicial official that the alleged

contemnor will be held in contempt unless he appears and shows cause why he should

not be held in contempt. Under either of these circumstances, the alleged contemnor

has the burden of proof.        In addition, pursuant to N.C. Gen. Stat. § 5A-23(a1),

proceedings for civil contempt may be initiated by motion of an aggrieved party giving

notice to the alleged contemnor to appear before the court for a hearing on whether

the alleged contemnor should be held in civil contempt. The burden of proof in a


       6 The trial court agreed, and we agree that everyone should be complying with the existing
2015 Modified Custody order, but the reality is this: as of 27 May 2019, Mother and Mary will have
to deal with their relationship on their own terms. We sincerely hope they will be successful, and
sooner rather than later.

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hearing pursuant to this subsection shall be on the aggrieved party.                           When an

aggrieved party rather than a judicial official initiates a proceeding for civil contempt,

the burden of proof is on the aggrieved party, N.C. Gen. Stat. § 5A-23(a1) (2015),

because there has not been a judicial finding of probable cause.” (Citations, quotation

marks, brackets, and ellipses omitted)).

        Father argues that the trial court’s confusing order is the result of Mother’s

complex motions. In her Omnibus Motion she asked to proceed on both civil and

criminal contempt simultaneously, and to proceed on both the motion for contempt

(for which she would have the burden of proof) and the show cause order for contempt

(for which Father would have the burden of proof). He contends that since this Court

had already remanded for a detailed order, the trial court was simply trying to cover

all the bases. Father may be right that the trial court was simply trying to address

both the contempt motion and the Show Cause Order with its multiple conclusions of

law that Father was not in willful contempt.7                    But upon reviewing the various

motions, hearing transcript, this Court’s prior opinion, and the entire order in

context, we simply cannot agree that the trial court misallocated the burden of proof.

        At the beginning of the hearing, the trial court and counsel discussed which

portions of the Omnibus Motion were to be heard that day. Before any evidence was


        7 Despite its length, this opinion does not fully reflect the procedural or factual complexities of
this case. After all, Mother calls her motion an “Omnibus Motion”, and this name is accurate; Omnibus
means, according to Black’s Law Dictionary, “In all things; on all points.” In omnibus, Black’s Law
Dictionary (10th Ed. 2014).

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presented, the trial court asked Mother’s counsel:

             Judge: Well, you get to choose whether you want to proceed
             first or whether you want the burden to shift, right, on the
             motion to show cause?

             [Mother’s counsel]: I do want the burden to shift. My sole
             question is about time and some equal allocation of the
             time.

      The trial court then asked counsel how many witnesses each anticipated

calling to assist in allocation of the time for the hearing. Father’s counsel said he

would call four or five witnesses; Mother’s counsel said she would call “zero to one”

but noted that he would need adequate time for cross-examination and argument.

The trial court then allocated time for the case, and Father presented his evidence

first, because he had the burden of proof.    During the testimony of the witnesses,

there were many objections from counsel and the trial court tried to keep the

questioning focused on the issue being heard since the issue was civil contempt, not

criminal. At one point during cross-examination of Father by Mother’s counsel,

regarding the dispute over Father’s taking Mary to visit boarding schools in 2015, the

trial court noted this would be a past violation and not something for which Father

may be held in civil contempt for as of that hearing in 2016. The trial court noted:

             JUDGE OSMAN: I mean, as it relates to -- well, I mean, I
             don’t know. I just did a CLE on this, I planned a CLE on
             this. I kind of feel like I know what I’m talking about. But
             sure, go ahead.

At these points and others during the hearing, the trial court demonstrated that it


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understood the differences between civil and criminal contempt and understood the

differences in the burden of proof between a motion for contempt and a show cause

order. We are satisfied that the trial court understood that the burden of proof was

on Father to show cause on why he should not be held in contempt and that the

reference in the order to “her burden” was in response to Mother’s motion for

contempt, as opposed to the show cause order.

       Even if we remanded for the trial court to rephrase its order and remove the

words at issue, ultimately, nothing would change.              Father met his burden to show

cause as to why he should not be held in contempt. He testified, and he presented

compelling evidence including testimony from John, Mary, Dr. Shulstad, Ms. Buford,

and various documentary exhibits. A remand would simply delay final resolution of

the contempt motion and prolong litigation in this matter until after Mary turns 18.

       Mother did not testify or present any testimony from any other witnesses,

electing to rest on her verified motion alone.8 Over Father’s objection, the trial court

agreed to accept her verified motion as equivalent to testimony presented at trial. We

express no opinion on whether the trial court should have accepted the motion in this

manner, but the mere fact that she filed a verified motion does not make her

allegations irrefutable, any more than her live testimony would be irrefutable. The



       8 The trial court demonstrated its understanding of the burden of proof at this point in the
hearing as well. When the trial court asked if Mother would call any witnesses, her counsel stated, “I
don’t have a witness.” The trial court responded, “Nor are you required to do so with a show cause.”

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trial court has the discretion to determine the credibility and weight of all the

evidence, whether it was a written document or live testimony, and this Court cannot

re-weigh the evidence. See, e.g., Clark v. Dyer, 236 N.C. App. 9, 27-28, 762 S.E.2d

838, 848 (2014) (“[I]t is within a trial court’s discretion to determine the weight and

credibility that should be given to all evidence that is presented during the trial. We

will not reweigh the evidence presented to the trial court[.]” (Citation and quotation

marks omitted)). Father refuted the motion, and Mother had full opportunity to

respond to his presentation of evidence, but chose not to do so and to rely only on her

written motion.   In other words, Father met his burden to produce evidence in

response to the Show Cause Order to show why he should not be held in willful

contempt with competent evidence which the trial court determined was credible.

The burden then shifted back to Mother to refute his evidence, but she elected not to

present any evidence. In that sense, she did not carry “her burden,” either to show

contempt under her motion for contempt or to respond to Father’s evidence presented

based upon the show cause order.

      Mother also argues that the trial court’s “misapprehension” of the burden of

proof caused the findings of fact to be improper, since the court was considering the

evidence under the wrong law. Even if the trial court had “misapprehended” the

burden of proof, Mother has not explained how this “misapprehension” would have

had any effect on the findings of fact. The findings are all supported by the evidence



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and most of the facts are not really in dispute. For example, Mother challenges this

finding of fact:

              16. [Mary] revealed to her brother that she had been self-
              harming for approximately one year and that she felt
              depressed and particularly so when at her Mother’s home.

But Mother’s own Omnibus Motion included detailed allegations of these same facts

about Mary’s revelation to John. There was no real dispute regarding most of the

basic facts relevant to contempt, such as when Mary stopped going to her Mother’s

house, her stated reasons for stopping, or that she was depressed and self-harming.

Mother’s motion is based only on why Mary remained at her Father’s home. She

claims Mary stayed because of Father’s continuing intense efforts to alienate Mary

and his refusal to force her to return to Mother’s home; Father claims Mary refused

to go and he tried but was unable to make her go by any reasonable means short of

physical force or punishment that may exacerbate her depression and self-harming.

The trial court’s findings resolved these factual issues, and based upon the evidence,

we cannot discern how a “misapprehension” of the burden of proof would have made

any meaningful difference in the findings of fact. This argument is without merit.

       B.     “Implied” Forced visitation provisions

       Mother next argues that the trial court “misapprehended the express and

implied requirements of the modified custody order.” She notes that the Order on

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either party to “force visitation with the other parent.” She challenges these findings

of fact, which she notes are actually mixed findings of fact and conclusions of law:

                      26. It is very clear that both children do not want to
               see their Mother, and there is no directive in the Order
               imposing any duty on either parent to force visitation with
               the other parent.
               ....
                      33. Father is not in willful violation of the Modified
               Custody Order, and any noncompliance by Father, the
               person to whom the order is directed, is not willful. To the
               extent the visitation schedule is not being honored, the
               Court finds that this is the consequence of [Mary’s] refusal
               to return and not due to any ongoing conduct by Father to
               thwart, prevent or inhibit [Mary’s] return to Mother’s
               residence.9

Mother contends that the 2015 Modified Custody Order does have “implied” forced

visitation requirements. The 2015 Modified Custody Order is long and very detailed,

but in summary, the order sets out detailed provisions on custodial times for each

parent including holidays and school breaks and detailed provisions on decision-

making.     It also includes the provision that “[t]his order is enforceable by the

contempt powers of the Court.”

       Mother relies heavily on Reynolds v. Reynolds, 109 N.C. App. 110, 426 S.E.2d

102 (1993), for her argument that the 2015 Modified Custody Order is a “forced

visitation” order. See id. at 113, 426 S.E.2d at 104. Yet Reynolds was not a contempt


       9  Although she fortunately did not request this relief before the trial court, Mother implies
quite strongly that the trial court could even hold Mary in contempt for not returning to her physical
custody. She notes that “the court here incorrectly omitted Daughter as a person (1) to whom the
Modified Custody Order is directed; and (2) over whom it possesses jurisdiction.”

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case; it was a constitutional challenge to a visitation order. Id. at 112, 426 S.E.2d at

104. In Reynolds, the mother and father originally had an order of joint custody

without a specified visitation schedule. Id. at 111, 426 S.E.2d at 103. The parties

could not agree on visitation, so the father filed a motion for visitation.       Id. The

daughter, then age 11, “expressed a desire not to visit her father[,]” but the trial court

determined it was in her best interest to visit with him and entered an order setting

a visitation schedule. Id. at 113, 426 S.E.2d at 104. There is no indication in the

opinion that the daughter had any serious emotional or behavioral problems -- such

as self-harming -- but she simply did not want to visit her father. See generally id.

The order in Reynolds included a provision “that ‘[v]iolation of this Order shall be

punishable by Contempt.’” Id., 426 S.E.2d at 105. Both the mother and the daughter

challenged the order as a violation of their constitutional due process rights. See

generally id. at 112, 426 S.E.2d at 104 (“The plaintiffs’ sole contention on appeal is

that the Order for visitation violates the Constitutional rights of the minor plaintiff.”).

This Court found “no merit to the arguments presented in the plaintiffs’ brief” and

affirmed the order. Id.

      Mother’s argument regarding “forced visitation” based on Reynolds relies upon

this Court’s comparison of the Reynolds order to an order in Mintz v. Mintz, 64 N.C.

App. 338, 307 S.E.2d 391 (1983). See Reynolds, 109 N.C. App. at 112-13, 426 S.E.2d

at 104. As explained in Reynolds, the Mintz order



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             set out a specific visitation schedule which the minor son
             of the parties simply decided he did not want to follow. The
             plaintiff mother, who had primary custody of the child, did
             not insist that the child comply with the Order. Unlike the
             Order in the present case, the Order in Mintz provided that,
             upon noncompliance with the Order, the father was to take
             the Order to the sheriff’s office and the sheriff was to
             immediately arrest the mother for contempt and place the
             son in the custody of the father. This Court found that such
             a provision denied the mother due process of law, and
             therefore held the visitation Order to be invalid. This
             Court further concluded that, although the facts in Mintz
             failed to support a valid Order, an Order of “forced
             visitation” could be entered once the trial judge has (1)
             afforded the parties an opportunity for a hearing in
             accordance with due process, (2) created an Order setting
             out specific findings of fact and conclusions of law to justify
             and support the Order, and (3) made findings that include
             at a minimum that the drastic action of incarceration of a
             parent is reasonably necessary for the promotion and
             protection of the best interest and welfare of the child.

Reynolds, 109 N.C. App. at 113, 426 S.E.2d at 104 (citations omitted) (emphasis

added).

      The Reynolds Court concluded that the order did not violate the plaintiffs’ due

process rights, since it was “not analogous to the contempt provision in the Mintz case

as it does not provide that the violator will be incarcerated upon the oral report of a

violation to the sheriff. Rather, the provision is a valid declaration that one who

violates the Order will be subject to contempt proceedings in accordance with due

process.” Reynolds, 109 N.C. App. at 113, 426 S.E.2d at 105. The holding of Reynolds

is simply that custody or visitation provisions do not violate the constitutional due



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process rights of either the parents or the child because they are enforceable by

contempt proceedings as long as the alleged condemner has proper notice and

opportunity for hearing. See generally id. Reynolds does not establish any sort of

“forced visitation” rule. Id.

        Nor does the Mintz case create a “forced visitation” rule as Mother claims. See

generally 64 N.C. App. 338, 307 S.E.2d 391. In fact, Mintz uses the word “forced” only

once, in the first sentence, as a description of what happened in the case: “This case

concerns a domestic confrontation between mother and father over forced visitation

of their 11-year-old child with the father.” Id. at 338, 307 S.E.2d at 392.10 As noted

in Reynolds, the Mintz order was defective because it allowed immediate

incarceration of the alleged contemnor based on the word of the other parent, without

opportunity for prior notice and hearing. Reynolds, 109 N.C. App. at 113, 426 S.E.2d

at 104. Mintz does not address any sort of “implied” provisions of forced visitation.

See generally Mintz, 64 N.C. App. 338, 307 S.E.2d 391.

        Mother argues that because the 2015 Modified Custody Order has a provision

that “[t]his order is enforceable by the contempt powers of the Court,” it is a “forced

visitation” order.      Father responds that this provision is unnecessary, since all

custody and visitation orders are enforceable by the contempt powers of the court



        10 Mintz does use the verb “force” three times, but these are as part of the facts and description
of the issues. For example, the mother claimed “she felt she could not force David to go with his dad.”
Id. at 338-39, 307 S.E.2d at 392 (quotation marks omitted).

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anyway. Many orders include this provision simply as a reminder to the parties of

the potential consequences of violation, but its absence does not mean the order

cannot be enforced by contempt under N.C. Gen. Stat. § 5A-11 (2017) (“Criminal

contempt”) or N.C. Gen. Stat. § 5A-21 (“Civil contempt”). But Mother argues this

provision creates a “forced visitation” order with “express and implied” requirements.

Apparently, the “express” requirements are the custodial schedule, and the “implied”

requirements are the actions a party must take to “force” visitation or custodial time

in accord with the order. She argues that

             to avoid contempt, Father must do exceedingly more than
             meet the de minimis threshold the court seemingly (and
             incorrectly) created here -- that is, he cannot forestall a
             “willful noncompliance” determination merely by foregoing
             blatant force, manipulation, punishment, marginalization,
             persuasion, or mandates to thwart Daughter’s court-
             ordered “best interests” relationship with Mother.

This awkward sentence seems to be based in part upon the trial court’s finding No.

27:

             27. The Court finds that Father did not create any
             situation to manipulate, or otherwise punish, or
             marginalize Mother’s parenting time, nor did Father
             attempt to persuade or mandate in any fashion that [Mary]
             and [John] should not spend time with Mother as set forth
             in the Modified Custody Order.”

      But the trial court’s finding was simply addressing Mother’s own allegations

in her Omnibus Motion that Father had intentionally done these very things in the

past to alienate the children from her and was continuing to do them still. For


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example, her Omnibus Motion makes detailed allegations about times when Father

had in the past “physically blocked” the children from seeing Mother; used his religion

to divide the children from her; “used his ‘money, power, and high energy to influence

professionals to advance his agenda with respect to’” the children; “manipulated the

professionals involved in the care of his children;” empowered the children to make

Mother appear to be the “the bad guy,” and many other similar allegations. The trial

court found that Father had not committed this misbehavior as alleged by Mother’s

Omnibus Motion. This finding does not mean that the trial court misunderstood

Father’s obligation to take any reasonable measures possible to make Mary return to

her Mother’s home. Instead, the trial court found that “Father has taken reasonable

measures to comply with the order as detailed in Findings of Fact 20, 21, and 22.11

However, any noncompliance with the Modified Custody Order is, again, due to

[Mary’s] refusal to comply and not due to or caused by any noncompliance with the

order by Father.”

        In every custody case, even contempt cases, the “polar star” is the best interest

of the children; the Mintz case makes this point:


        11Those findings state that Father encouraged Mary to return; he drove Mary by her Mother’s
house and encouraged her to get out and visit Mother; he invited Mother to come to his home to talk
to Mary. Although the trial court did not specifically find how many times these things happened,
these are ultimate findings of fact. See, e.g., In re Harton, 156 N.C. App. 655, 660, 577 S.E.2d 334, 337
(2003) (“The trial court may not simply recite allegations, but must through processes of logical
reasoning from the evidentiary facts find the ultimate facts essential to support the conclusions of
law.” (Citation and quotation marks omitted)). The trial court need not recite all of the evidence, but
the evidence showed Father encouraged Mary to return and drove her to her Mother’s home almost
daily except during times when they were out of town.

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                In all custody or visitation cases the child’s best interest is
                the polar star. Here, the order fails to contain any findings
                that the best interests and welfare of the child would be
                served by jailing the mother if the child refuses to visit with
                his father. This failing in the order also contributes to its
                invalidity.

Mintz, 64 N.C. App. at 340, 307 S.E.2d at 393 (citations omitted). The Mintz Court

also notes that for older children, the trial court may give more weight to the wishes

of the child:

                If the child is of the age of discretion, the child’s preference
                on visitation may be considered, but his choice is not
                absolute or controlling. As to what age is the age of
                discretion, we feel that the better statement of the law is
                that found in 42 Am. Jur. 2d Infants § 45 (1969): The nearer
                the child approaches the age of 14, the greater is the weight
                which should be given to the child’s custodial preference.
                As to when the child is mature and intelligent enough to
                formulate a rational judgment concerning its welfare, it is
                generally agreed that in the absence of a statute to the
                contrary, no specific age is set by law in this regard, but the
                question depends on the mental capacity, or the mental
                development, or the intelligence of each child in
                question. It remains the duty of the trial judge to
                determine the weight to be accorded the child’s preference,
                to find and conclude what is in the best interest of the child,
                and to decide what promotes the welfare of the child.

Id. at 340-41, 307 S.E.2d at 393-94 (citations omitted).

       Mary was 15 years old at the time of the hearing, and the evidence showed that

she is a very intelligent, mature, and capable young woman. The trial court heard

Mary’s testimony and testimony from her long-time pediatrician and her school

guidance counselors. The trial court had the duty to consider the weight to give to


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her preference and to consider her best interests; the transcript and order show the

trial court took this duty seriously. Although this is a contempt case and not a case

establishing custody, the trial court was considering Mary’s best interests as part of

its evaluation of what Father should do to make Mary visit her Mother. There is no

dispute that she was depressed and self-harming.12                  Dr. Shulstad testified that he

had insisted that Mary go to therapy, and if she had not, he would have considered

inpatient treatment for her protection.13 The evidence showed, and the trial court

determined, that Mary’s older brother, John, was the one whom she confided in and

he sought help for her. And Mary and John then refused to return to their Mother’s

home. Mary testified that she was more depressed and anxious at her Mother’s home

and she did not feel she was ready to return. The trial court determined that Father

did all that he could reasonably do to get Mary to visit her mother without resorting

to actions that would likely be harmful to her. Mother cites to Hancock v. Hancock,

122 N.C. App. 518, 471 S.E.2d 415 (1996), and argues that Father “did not ‘do

everything possible short of using physical force or a threat of punishment’ to ensure

[Mary] was in Mother’s custody.” She notes that Father picked Mary up from school


        12 Mother actually took the position at the hearing that Mary’s self-harming was “irrelevant”
to whether Father was in contempt. In a colloquy regarding one of the many objections during John’s
testimony, her counsel stated: “We’ll stipulate there was cutting going on. I question what the
relevance is of all of this in determining whether or not [Father] has wilfully violated the Court’s order
by not allowing [Mother] the right to exercise her custody time. There is no relevance.”
        13 He testified, “When you are self cutting, [Mary] or any other self-cutter who refuses therapy,

yes. Then the appropriate medical decision is that child is doing harm to themselves and at any point
could go beyond self-cutting to self-mutilation to accidental death, that child needs to be admitted to
the hospital.”

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or soccer practice, “indulged” her by allowing her to keep her phone, see friends, go

on trips out of town, buy new clothes, “enjoy an amusement park[,]” and “mingle at

various other social events.” The trial court considered Mary’s best interests and

determined that Father did all that he could reasonably do without making Mary’s

situation worse. When announcing the ruling to the parties at the hearing, the trial

court noted: “I cannot -- and this might be one of the most compelling parts -- I cannot

find it is in the best interest of [Mary] to force visitation at this time, consistent with

Hancock, based on what the testimony was from her.”

      Father was dealing with a depressed teenage girl who was self-harming. He

picked her up from school because she told him she would walk home from school or

practice instead of going with her mother, if he did not pick her up. Isolating her

from friends or locking her in the house would likely exacerbate her condition. Mary

was in therapy and improving, but therapy does not have instantaneous results. The

trial court was well aware of the parties’ “tumultuous history” and Father’s past

misdeeds -- as are we, since Mother has listed them several times all the way back to

2006 in her Omnibus Motion and her brief -- but the trial court properly considered

Mary’s best interests and the current circumstances in evaluating whether Father

was in willful civil contempt.

      C.     Willfulness

      Mother next contends the trial court “misapprehended” the law regarding



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willful contempt by a parent in the context of a child’s refusal to visit with or see the

other parent.     She also argues extensively this Court should disapprove or limit

Hancock and that the trial court erred by relying on Hancock.14 She claims that

              the Modified Custody Order clearly contains the type of
              “forced-visitation” provision that Mintz contemplated and
              Reynolds recognized, see 109 N.C. App. at 113, 426 S.E.2d
              at 104-105, making Reynolds precedential and Hancock
              inapposite. See Hancock, 122 N.C. App. at 526, 471 S.E.2d
              at 420 (noting the underlying consent judgment and the
              contempt order lacked the type of forced-visitation
              provision contemplated in Mintz). The forced-visitation
              provision’s presence here thus vitiates challenged Findings
              of Fact 23-27, 29-30, 32-36, and Conclusions of Law 1-3 and
              5-8, for they all assume its absence.

Mother argues that the 2015 Modified Custody Order has “implied forced visitation”

provisions and Father willfully violated those “implied” provisions by not forcing

Mary to go to her Mother’s home, but the trial court failed to recognize these “implied”

requirements of the Order based upon its interpretation of Hancock, 122 N.C. App.

518, 471 S.E.2d 415. Specifically, Mother argues:

              Here, the court interpreted Hancock and its progeny to rule
              otherwise, determining that Father could not be held in
              contempt--even though he never even attempted to use any
              incentive, reward, punishment, or other effective means of
              persuasion to ensure compliance--because the Modified
              Custody Order purportedly lacks an express forced-
              visitation provision.




       14 Mother filed a Motion for Initial En Banc review in this case, requesting this Court to
overrule Hancock explicitly. The motion was denied.

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Mother’s argument misconstrues Hancock and Reynolds and ignores the requirement

that all orders dealing with child custody and visitation, even a contempt order, must

consider the best interests of the child.

      In Hancock, the parties’ son refused to go on three weekend visits with his

father. Hancock, 122 N.C. App. at 521-22, 471 S.E.2d at 417. The trial court held the

mother in civil contempt for willful failure to comply with the visitation order. Id. at

522, 471 S.E.2d at 417-18. On appeal, the mother argued that “there must be a

showing that the custodial parent deliberately interfered with or frustrated the

noncustodial parent’s visitation before the custodial parent’s actions can be

considered willful.” Id. at 522, 471 S.E.2d at 418. This Court agreed and reversed

the order of civil contempt. Id. at 523, 471 S.E.2d at 418. The Court noted the

testimony by mother, her daughter, and the child; all of the evidence showed that the

mother had gotten the son ready for visitation, packed his things, told him he had to

go, put him outside for his father to pick him up while she stayed inside, and told him

to get into the car with his father. Id. at 523-24, 471 S.E.2d at 418-19. He refused.

Id. at 524, 471 S.E.2d at 419. The son testified that “he loved his father and wished

to spend time with him, but only if his father’s second wife and her children would

not be there.” Id. He said he did not “feel comfortable” with his father’s wife or at

his father’s home, that his step-mother “called him ‘a spoiled brat,’” and that the bed

there was uncomfortable. Id. at 525, 471 S.E.2d at 419. There was evidence he



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“hated” his step-brother. Id.

      This Court held there was no evidence that the mother had willfully disobeyed

the court’s order and she was not in civil contempt:

             Nowhere in the record do we find evidence that plaintiff
             acted purposefully and deliberately or with knowledge and
             stubborn resistance to prevent defendant’s visitation with
             the child. The evidence shows plaintiff prepared the child
             to go, encouraged him to visit with his father, and told him
             he had to go. The child simply refused. Plaintiff did
             everything possible short of using physical force or a threat
             of punishment to make the child go with his father. While
             perhaps the plaintiff could have used some method to
             physically force the child to visit his father, even if she
             improperly did not force the visitation, her actions do not
             rise to a willful contempt of the consent judgment.

Id. at 525, 471 S.E.2d at 419 (emphasis added).

      The Hancock Court further noted that the father may have a remedy by asking

the trial court for an order of “forced visitation,” but civil contempt was not the proper

remedy:

             Where, as here, the custodial parent does not prevent
             visitation but takes no action to force visitation when the
             child refuses to go, the proper method is for the
             noncustodial parent to ask the court to modify the order to
             compel visitation. A trial judge has the power to make an
             order forcing a child to visit the noncustodial parent. In
             this case, the trial court attempted the functional
             equivalent of an order of forced visitation by sentencing
             plaintiff to jail but allowing her to purge herself of
             contempt by delivering the child over to defendant each
             and every time he was entitled to visitation. However, the
             order fails as an attempt at forced visitation.



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Id. at 526, 471 S.E.2d at 420 (citations, quotation marks, and brackets omitted). The

Hancock Court noted that a trial judge could enter an “order of forced visitation” but

only if

               the circumstances are so compelling and only after he has
               done the following: afforded to the parties a hearing in
               accordance with due process; created a proper court order
               based on findings of fact and conclusions of law determined
               by the judge to justify and support the order; and made
               findings that include at a minimum that the drastic action
               of incarceration of a parent is reasonably necessary for the
               promotion and protection of the best interest and welfare
               of the child. Neither the consent judgment nor the
               contempt order contains any findings that the
               incarceration of the plaintiff is reasonably necessary to
               promote and protect the best interests of the child.

Id. (citation and quotation marks omitted).

          Here, Mother included in her Omnibus Motion two motions which are

essentially motions for a forced visitation order.         She asked for a mandatory

preliminary injunction requiring Father to return Mary to her home and to “exert his

parental influence” to make her stay there. She also asked for “judicial assistance”

in the form of mandated reunification therapy. If these motions are not requests for

“forced visitation” orders, it is hard to imagine what a forced visitation request would

include. Those motions are not subjects of the order on appeal. But even in a

contempt order, if the trial court is to enter a contempt order that operates as an

order of “forced visitation,” the order may be entered only under “compelling”

circumstances and


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              only after he has done the following: afforded to the parties
              a hearing in accordance with due process; created a proper
              court order based on findings of fact and conclusions of law
              determined by the judge to justify and support the order;
              and made findings that include at a minimum that the
              drastic action of incarceration of a parent is reasonably
              necessary for the promotion and protection of the best
              interest and welfare of the child.

Id. (quoting Mintz, 64 N.C. App. at 341, 307 S.E.2d at 394). And this is exactly what

the trial court noted it could not do: “this might be one of the most compelling parts -

- I cannot find that it is in the best interest of [Mary] to force visitation at this time.”

       Mother seeks to distinguish Hancock based upon the differences in the facts:

the duration of the missed custodial time; the custodial status (denial of weekend

visitation v. physical custody); Father’s “indulgence” of Mary when at his home; and

the tumultuous history of this case. We agree that no two custody cases are alike

factually; “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own

way.”15 The trial court’s job is to hear the evidence, find the facts, consider those facts

and circumstances, and determine what action the parent should reasonably take to

force visitation, consistent with the best interests of the child. See generally Hancock,

122 N.C. App. at 526, 471 S.E.2d at 420. The differences in the facts of the cases do

not eliminate Hancock as a precedent supporting the trial court’s order, nor is it the

only case which supports the order. See also McKinney v. McKinney, __ N.C. App.



       15  Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina 3 (Melanie Hill & Kathryn Knight eds., Constance Garnett
trans., 2005) (1875).

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__, __, 799 S.E.2d 280, 284-85 (2017) (“In the present case, the district court made no

finding that Father refused to allow Max to live with Mother or refused to obey the

custody orders. The district court did not find that Father encouraged Max to stay

with him, but rather, found that he told Max that Max should go home. It is true

that the district court found that Father did not punish Max or make life

uncomfortable for Max while remaining in Wilmington.          And these actions and

inactions may have been improper, but otherwise do not rise to the level of contempt.

We do not think that the findings that Father provided a high standard of living for

Max which was an ‘enticement’ for Max to prefer living with Father is enough to rise

to the level of willfulness, absent a finding supported by the evidence that Father

provided a high standard of living for the purpose of enticing Max to run away from

Mother rather than merely for the purpose of providing for or bonding with Max.”

(citations omitted)).

      The need to consider the child’s best interest is why cases have typically not

required a parent to use “physical force” or other extreme measures to make a child

visit or stay with a parent. See generally McKinney, __ N.C. App. at __, 799 S.E.2d

at 284-85; Hancock, 122 N.C. App. at 525-26, 471 S.E.2d at 419-20. A certain amount

of physical force would make a child go in any case, regardless of the child’s age or

circumstances, but it would probably never be in a child’s best interest.

      Mother’s predictions of anarchy in enforcement of custody orders based upon



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Hancock -- and the trial court’s order -- from allowing a parent to ignore a court order

with impunity where a child simply refuses to go are unfounded. She argues:

             Granting an alleged contemnor absolution based [sic]
             Hancock, however, violates several fundamental legal
             principles and perpetuates bad public policy.
                    For instance, allowing a parent to sidestep contempt
             based on a child’s actual or purported refusal to honor a
             custody order -- i.e., the adjudication of what is in the
             child’s best interest -- effectively means that a child
             possesses actual or apparent authority to modify or
             otherwise override the ruling, sua sponte. This is wrong on
             several levels. This faulty position likewise seemingly
             implies that every court-ordered custody/visitation
             schedule automatically is subject to a child’s approval, a
             condition previously allowed only by express provision
             under extreme circumstances.
                    Further, allowing a parent to raise a child’s actual
             or purported “wishes” as a shield against contempt liability
             in such circumstances perversely places the child in
             jeopardy of being (1) held in contempt; and/or (2)
             adjudicated “delinquent” or “undisciplined”. It similarly
             exposes the alleged contemnor- parent to possible criminal
             prosecution for aiding a “delinquent” or “undisciplined”
             juvenile.

(Citations omitted).

      The order on appeal did not allow Father to ignore the court’s order with

impunity.   And neither Hancock nor any other case grants alleged contemnors

“absolution” based simply on a child’s refusal or wishes, nor does it imply that any

“court-ordered custody/visitation schedule” is subject to a child’s approval.       The

problem with Mother’s efforts to hold Father in civil contempt was not the provisions

of the Order or Hancock; it was the unique facts of this case, including Mary’s mental


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health concerns. This is not a case of a young child simply saying “no.”

                                   III. Conclusion

      The trial court did not misapprehend the law of civil contempt, either on the

burden of proof or willfulness. The trial court’s conclusions of law are supported by

the findings of fact. We therefore affirm the order.

      AFFIRMED.

      Chief Judge McGEE and Judge BRYANT concur.




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