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              IN THE COURT OF APPEAL OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA

                                     SECOND APPELLATE DISTRICT

                                                  DIVISION TWO

In re V.G. et al., Persons Coming Under the                          B257432
Juvenile Court Law.                                                  (Los Angeles County
                                                                     Super. Ct. No. CK92412)
LOS ANGELES COUNTY
DEPARTMENT OF CHILDREN
AND FAMILY SERVICES,

         Plaintiff and Respondent,

         v.

E.L.,

         Defendant and Appellant;

VICTORIA P.,

         Appellant.



         APPEALS from a judgment of the Superior Court of Los Angeles County.
Philip Soto, Judge. Affirmed.
         Jamie A. Moran, under appointment by the Court of Appeal, for Defendant and
Appellant E.L.
         Megan Turkat Schirn, under appointment by the Court of Appeal, for Appellant
Victoria P.
         Arezoo Pichvai, Tarkian & Associates for Plaintiff and Respondent.
       E.L. (Mother) has a history of untreated mental illness. In 2012, her children were
detained. Her infant and toddler bonded for over two years with a prospective adoptive
family. Mother’s visits were always monitored. Shortly before the permanent plan
hearing, Mother began using antipsychotic medications. Mother’s recent effort does not
outweigh the children’s need for permanency. We affirm orders denying further
reunification services and terminating parental rights. (Welf. & Inst. Code, §§ 388,
366.26.)1 The legislative preference for adoption is not overcome by either the parent-
child bond or the sibling relationship statutory exceptions.
                                          FACTS
       Mother’s children are Victoria P. (born in 1996), V.G. (2010) and O.L. (2011). In
February 2012, Mother was committed to a psychiatric hospital.2 A physician stated that
Mother is psychotic and has “outbursts,” yelling that “her arm is on fire, her vagina hurts,
and she’s being drowned.” Mother believes that the FBI planted a chip in her to monitor
her movements and deny her government assistance; she wanders away for days at a
time, and no one knows where she has been; she sleeps in the bushes outside her home;
and she refuses to enroll in a mental health program.
       Teenage Victoria informed the Department of Children and Family Services
(DCFS) that Mother’s behavior was worsening: her irrational outbursts used to happen
twice a day, “but now it’s every 10 minutes.” Mother felt she must pick up garbage to
save other people’s lives. Victoria recalled that Mother once took medication for bipolar
disorder and depression, but stopped because she disliked the side effects. Victoria
hoped that Mother will get help. The children of Mother’s housemate described Mother
as “crazy” and “very strange and bizarre.” O.L. and V.G. were too young to be
interviewed.



1      All statutory references in this opinion are to the Welfare and Institutions Code.
2      In 2010, Mother was involuntarily detained when she tried to leave the hospital
while giving birth. Victoria and V.G. were in protective care for nine days.


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       DCFS detained the children on March 1, 2012, and placed them as a sibling set.
One month later, Victoria was moved after the foster mother twice found drug
paraphernalia. In April 2012, V.G. and O.L. were declared a sibling group, and Victoria
was excluded.
       Mother was relieved that DCFS took the children into protective custody, because
“now I know they are safe.” She denied saying crazy things, yelling, hearing voices, or
believing that the FBI was out to get her, and described herself as “very lucid.” Mother
reported that she is quoting from the Bible and talking to God when she speaks aloud,
and that she may have a pelvic or urinary infection that caused her to yell about her
private parts. Mother also suggested that she yells because she goes barefoot and steps
on glass, or the neighbors annoy her. She collects trash to reduce litter and recycle.
       On March 6, 2012, DCFS filed a petition alleging that Mother has a history of
mental and emotional problems, was hospitalized for evaluation and treatment, cannot
provide regular care for the children, and her condition endangers the children’s health
and safety. She denied the allegations. The court found a prima facie case for detaining
the children. Mother was authorized to have monitored visits.
       Victoria confirmed that Mother says bizarre things, yells, goes on “missions” to
cool down, and does not contact her family for days. Mother has had three prior
psychiatric hospitalizations, and ignored Victoria’s requests that she take medication.
Victoria’s father Shane P. told DCFS that “Things got too weird with [Mother] and I
asked her to leave. She never got any help,” though he begged her to do so. Mother’s
housemate said that Mother leaves “for days on end with no call and no check in.”
       An amended petition alleges that Mother’s mental problems include a diagnosis of
bipolar disorder, auditory hallucinations, and paranoid, delusional and psychotic
behavior. Mother has not taken psychotropic medication and was involuntarily
hospitalized for treatment, which renders her incapable of caring for the children and
places them at risk of harm. A new count alleges that Victoria’s father has a history of
substance abuse and a conviction for drug possession.



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       Mother denied being diagnosed with any condition or prescribed medication, or
having hallucinations, or being hospitalized. She has been an exotic dancer for decades
and performs in adult films. Shane P. had custody of Victoria from 2001 to 2006. The
fathers of V.G. and O.L. have never seen their children. Mother is homeless: she sleeps
at the dance club where she works or on a bus.
       In May 2012, Mother informed DCFS that she did not plan to “fight” for the
children and “they could find her when they turn 18.” Mother did not visit the children at
all. DCFS contacted 52 foster homes or agencies, trying unsuccessfully to place the three
children in one home. They had regular sibling visits. Victoria was placed in a group
home after her second foster family discovered that she sneaked an older male into her
bedroom. Mother saw Victoria during a meeting at DCFS and upset the child by saying,
“I would rather be in Panama on a yacht right now than in this visit with you” and
suggested to Victoria that the foster home “can take care of you. I am not going to spend
the next 18 years trying to get my kids back, get over it already.” The visit was
terminated and Mother continued to rant at Victoria as they left the office.
       The court sustained the allegations against Mother and Shane P. at the jurisdiction
hearing on June 21, 2012, and declared the children to be dependents of the court.
Mother was ordered to attend individual counseling with a licensed therapist and take
prescribed psychotropic medications. She was given monitored visits.
       Victoria fled foster placement for months at a time between July and December
2012, calling the social worker to say that she was in Nevada. In October 2012, Victoria
entered a foster home, but was ejected for sneaking a boy into her bedroom and drinking
alcohol. She ran away from her new foster home. V.G. and O.L. were thriving since
April with caregivers who have an approved adoptive home study and wish to adopt
them. V.G. was seeing a therapist weekly, and had stopped biting herself.
       Though entitled to three visits per week, Mother did not call DCFS to request
visits for nine months. She finally saw V.G. and O.L. for one hour at the end of
November 2012. During her visit, the children referred to the foster parents as “mommy”
and “daddy.” Victoria and Mother speak by telephone and see each other in unmonitored

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visits, in violation of court order. Victoria had six visits with her half siblings between
March and November 2012, and they interacted well.
       A caregiver demanded Victoria’s removal in January 2013, because she was a bad
influence on other children in the home, running away and reportedly having oral sex
with a boy. Victoria was “AWOL” from January to March 2013. She denied living with
Mother, but they came to the DCFS office together for monitored visits with the younger
children. V.G. and O.L. are “very attached to their foster parents and recognize them as
their only caregivers.”
       Mother continues to work as an adult entertainer but lacks money to meet her
basic needs. She does not believe she needs therapy or prescribed medication because
she is not “schizo.” Mother yelled at the social worker that she does not want visits with
any of the children, she just wants them in her care. She believed that the only
impediment to gaining custody was finding a home. She was sleeping on the floor in a
“bachelor pad” with two men, one of whom has an open DCFS case.
       Mother saw the children four times in February 2013. Mother’s psychiatrist wrote
that Mother has bipolar disorder with psychotic features; chronic paranoid schizophrenia;
alcohol dependence; auditory hallucinations and delusions and believes that she is micro-
chipped by the FBI, CIA and other government agencies. She told the doctor that
parasites are coming out of her nose. Mother frequently fails to show up for her
counseling appointments, and wanted Victoria to be forcibly locked in a facility.
       In March 2013, the court found Mother is in partial compliance with the case plan
and released Victoria to Mother’s care, under DCFS supervision. In May 2013, the court
removed Victoria from Mother’s care after DCFS reported that they were living in a
virtually empty house with no bedding and neighbors witnessed drinking or substance
abuse. On an unannounced visit, the social worker smelled marijuana where Victoria
was sitting. When DCFS executed the warrant for removal, Mother yelled, made
inappropriate comments and the police were called. The following day, Mother was
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       DCFS filed a new petition for Victoria, who was three months pregnant, and the
court ordered her detention. Mother admittedly allowed Victoria’s boyfriend to stay
overnight with Victoria while the child was AWOL from her foster placements. Mother
does not know how to set boundaries. Mother indicated that she did not want any visits
with Victoria or to reunify with her. When upset, Mother tended to yell that she no
longer wished to visit, but would then apologize and ask to have visits. The court
sustained the petition, and Mother was given monitored visits.
       In June and August 2013, DCFS reported that V.G. and O.L. are strongly bonded
to the foster parents, who are very involved in the children’s lives and provide
appropriate care and supervision. Mother had monitored visits twice a week since March
2013, and behaved well with the children; however, she screamed at the social worker,
“adopt them out, this is crap” and stormed from the office, slamming the door. She
stopped taking her medication because she felt she did not need it. She is homeless.
       Mother describes herself as a “supermom” and has no insight into her problems.
She refuses to participate in any programs and takes no responsibility for her actions.
She yelled obscenities and slurs at the social worker and displayed paranoia during a
monitored visit, accusing DCFS and the caregivers of being part of an ethnic mob who
are bugging the DCFS visitation rooms and are out to get her. She was ejected from the
courtroom after disrupting a hearing.
       Mother received referrals for shelter, housing and a food pantry, but continued to
be homeless in September 2013. She did not take medication. She attended counseling
sessions between October 2012 and August 2013: her current psychiatrist diagnosed a
bipolar affective disorder with psychotic features. Mother told the social worker that she
would not be returning for counseling because “human trafficking” was occurring in the
mental health facility lobby. When other facilities were recommended, Mother replied
that she is not “crazy.” V.G. and O.L. appear happy and well-adjusted, and do not
display any behavioral or emotional issues. They are thriving with their caregivers.
Eighteen months had passed since the children were detained, but Mother continued to



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deny having mental health problems. Victoria’s caregiver asked that she be removed:
DCFS then had difficulty finding a new home for a pregnant teen.
       On September 11, 2013, the court terminated Mother’s reunification services with
O.L. and V.G. It found that reasonable services were provided, and set a permanent plan
hearing. Mother was allowed to have monitored visits once a week. Victoria sought to
contest the permanent plan, arguing that she has maintained visitation during the case and
has a sibling relationship. She acknowledged that there is a postadoption contract to
ensure continued contact with O.L. and V.G. The caregivers expressed willingness to
maintain Victoria’s sibling relationship, with personal visits, telephone calls, or Skype.
Victoria stopped visiting after giving birth in November 2013.
       Victoria had unmonitored visits with Mother, and purchased a car for Mother’s
use. Victoria wanted her siblings to move to her latest foster home: she did not
understand that she has a very unstable placement history or that her siblings have been
in a permanent home for over a year. She disappears regularly, does not contact her
caregivers, and refused to attend a prenatal appointment to test for diabetes.
       Mother made completely irrational statements to the social worker. She had
monitored visits once a week at the DCFS office and was given referrals for housing and
for counseling, but did not participate in therapy or take medication. DCFS asked the
court to terminate Mother’s reunification services with Victoria, reasoning that Victoria
and her baby need stability and permanency. The court terminated Mother’s
reunification services with Victoria on January 6, 2014, and authorized them to have
monitored visits. Victoria was 17 years old.
       For the permanent plan hearing, DCFS reported that V.G. and O.L. are happy,
thriving and strongly bonded with the M. family, who ensure sibling visits with Victoria.
Mrs. M. is a stay-at-home mother for the children, who are not of school age; Mr. M. is
employed in the financial industry. They are committed to providing a loving, stable,
permanent home for the children.
       Though Mother visited fairly consistently, the children are not bonded to her. For
example, in December 2012, V.G. wanted to remain near Mrs. M., and continued call the

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foster mother “mother” even after Mother told her not to do so. In February 2013,
Mother cancelled a visit at the last minute, and V.G. said, “that’s ok.” She is not sad
when Mother cancels visits. O.L. enjoys visits because he gets to play with toys and
watch movies, but “he did not appear to be excited when he saw his mother.” O.L. is
cooperative and happy, but frequently states that he wants to see his foster mother before,
during and after visits with Mother.
       Mother’s behavior is often bizarre. In August and September 2013, Mother
inappropriately asked the visitation monitor whether she was raped as a child; made
paranoid statements; was verbally aggressive; yelled “get out of [my] face” at V.G.;
stared out the window during most of a visit; asked other visitors about their “human
trafficking” activities; and asked the monitor if she was going to kill the children. When
Mother went outside to smoke, the children did not notice her absence and did not
respond when she returned to say goodbye. By October 2013, both children became
upset in the parking lot on the way to the visit and cried at the beginning of the visit.
When Mother asked V.G. what was wrong, the child said she wanted to be home with the
foster mother. O.L. sought to be held by the monitor when he first saw Mother.
       On October 25, 2013, Mother acted inappropriately during a visit. She suggested
that DCFS was being investigated for child trafficking and was watching every move she
makes. When DCFS staff tried to terminate the visit, Mother began swearing and was
escorted out. A staffer thought that Mother was having a psychotic episode. She was
screaming and swore loudly at the DCFS security guard, saying he was a “child
molester” who was “responsible for child trafficking.” She scared other people in the
lobby, and caused V.G. and Victoria to cry. Once outside the facility, Mother sat on a
bench “talking to herself and acting very crazy.” The children stopped crying once
Mother departed. Victoria denied that Mother’s behavior is unusual, aggressive or
inappropriate, tuning out when Mother shouts bizarre comments or obscenities. DCFS
sought to limit Mother’s visits to once a month, at a police station.
       In November 2013, Mother told the social worker that the foster home is affiliated
with the Armenian mafia, that the visiting rooms at DCFS are “bugged,” that she “wants

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the chip out of her arm;” and that the children are cloned. V.G. was negatively impacted
by visits. She cried, said that she wanted to go home with the foster mother, and did not
want to go inside for a visit with Mother. She tried to run away from Mother and back to
the departing foster mother, saying, “I want Mommy.” Mother responded, “I’m your
mommy. Why are you upset?” then asked the child whether the monitor “put a penis in
your face?” When informed that it is inappropriate to make sexual comments to the
children, Mother began yelling in the monitor’s face and V.G. began to cry loudly.
Mother entered the DCFS lobby and yelled at staffers in a “very escalated” manner. The
visit was terminated. One week later, V.G. repeatedly stated that she did not want to talk
to Mother and demanded that Mother be quiet when she tried to engage the child. After
the visit, the children needed to be transported to their foster home, but V.G. cried and
screamed that she wanted the foster mother. She bit the social worker, who was putting
in her car seat, and cried for the 40-minute ride home. Afterward, she had uncontrollable
tantrums for a week. Subsequently, the foster mother transported the children to and
from visits to ease the transition.
       In a January 2014 report for the permanent plan hearing, DCFS reviewed Mother’s
lengthy history of untreated mental illness. Mother did not visit the children for nearly
nine months after they were detained. Initially, she appeared to make progress, but by
September 2013, her behavior became aggressive and inappropriate, and negatively
impacted V.G.’s emotional well-being. There is no parent-child relationship: V.G. refers
to the caregiver as “mommy” in Mother’s presence and neither child seeks Mother’s
attention or affection during visits. Mother failed to comply with court orders to address
her mental issues and rejects any need for medication. The children are doing well and
are very attached to the foster family. V.G. told the social worker that “she likes living
with her mommy and daddy,” referring to the foster parents.
       Victoria was moved to a new placement in February 2014, after she left foster care
without permission. She opposed the adoption of her siblings, noting that she lived with
V.G. and O.L. from their births until they were detained. During that time, she
maintained a “parental role” in Mother’s absence, feeding them, changing their diapers,

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and ensuring their safety. One month after detention, Victoria was separated from her
siblings, but has consistently visited them, even while pregnant and now with her infant
daughter, spending hours on public transportation to reach them. They are happy
together. Victoria acknowledged the willingness of the prospective adoptive parents to
allow sibling visits, but their contract only calls for two visits per month instead of the
four visits authorized by current court order. She hopes to become their guardian when
she turns 18 in October 2014.
       Victoria requested a modification to have unmonitored visits with Mother, who
just started using prescription medications to stabilize her moods. They are very bonded.
She is in foster care but wishes to reside with Mother when she turns 18. DCFS opposed
a change because it is unclear whether Mother takes her medications and Victoria lacks
insight into and minimizes Mother’s mental health issues. DCFS received referrals that
Victoria neglected her four-month-old infant Eli by leaving her at the foster home and not
returning until the following day. Victoria admitted to smoking marijuana while
breastfeeding, and was arrested for tagging graffiti at a train station while an adult male
held Eli and acted as a lookout. Victoria was intoxicated and had beer in her possession
when arrested. Victoria was placed in a home for at-risk teen mothers, and was able to
visit her infant and siblings. The court denied Victoria’s request for a modification.
       In May and June 2014, Mother requested a modification to reinstate family
reunification services, indicating that she is “a good mom” and has a place for the
children to live. She was using prescribed medications and felt emotionally and mentally
stable. She was ejected from three or four shelters, which is how she became homeless
for a long period. Mother opined that the children are unhappy in their placement.
Mother shares a studio apartment with a male friend and works as an exotic dancer. She
completed a parenting education program. Mother’s most recent psychological progress
report, in December 2013, noted that Mother is acutely paranoid and delusional; has
schizoaffective disorder; and has also been diagnosed with bipolar disorder with
psychotic features. At that point, Mother was refusing to take medications and did not
complete her course of therapy due to missed appointments.

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       In regard to Mother’s current status, Victoria adamantly denied that Mother has a
history of mental problems, saying “she doesn’t have one,” and was merely pretending to
be schizophrenic to qualify for disability benefits. Victoria still relies on Mother for
transportation. Because Mother works at night, Victoria felt she could watch over the
house while the children sleep. Victoria wants to live with Mother. She feels “this case
is a waste of time . . . I don’t feel like we’re in danger at all.”
       V.G. (age four) told the interviewer that she lives with the M.’s “because they’re
my family.” Asked who visits, V.G. replied, “That was [E.]” and denied that she has
lived with E.L., adding, “I’m not living with [E.] because she’s not my family and I don’t
want to live with her.” In fact, she would “be really sad” if she lived with Mother instead
of her family. Asked directly whether she wished to live with Mother, V.G. replied, “No,
I don’t want to because I want to live with my family.”
       For his part, O.L. (age two), said “[E.] is a girl.” Asked whether he lives with
E.L., he replied, “No, I live with my family,” which he likes. He added, “I’m living with
them because they’re my family.” He sees E.L. at monitored visits, and denied ever
living with her. His “mommy and daddy” take care of him.
       Mother’s therapist indicated that Mother was unable to “think straight and
understand things” while refusing medication, but is now a completely different and
calmer person. However, Mother still “says the children are being cloned, she sees them
everywhere” in the community, so her thinking process needs improvement. Mother only
comes to therapy “when she wants to,” which was not often while she was homeless.
Mother does not understand that she would need money to feed the children and provide
a babysitter, if she continues to work at night. The therapist felt that Mother would be
better off with monitored visits. Unmonitored visits would be risky because “she still has
delusions and sometimes acts on those,” and could abscond with the children. Mother
refused medication “all these years” because she felt the doctors were trying to poison
her. More time is needed to see how Mother does, now that she is medicating. The
therapist opined that while Mother strives to do well and regain custody, the children are
“better off in the place they’re at right now.”

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       Mother’s roommate feels she is much better, since starting medication. Before,
“there was something off about her.” Now, she can contain her emotions and is very
good with the roommate’s five-year-old son, and he leaves the boy in her care. The
monitor for Mother’s visits observed that she interacts well with the children, brings them
healthy snacks, plays games and reads to them. They do not take instructions well from
Mother, ignoring her or saying no, and she unsuccessfully tries to use guilt to induce
compliance. The children do not have an emotional response when Mother fails to show
up for visits or when she departs after a visit. They have “a vague notion of a
relationship” and expect to spend small amounts of time with her, but “there’s no
affection.” The children’s social worker felt that Mother was fine with brief visits but
could not care for them full time. Mother still thinks that having a place to live will
automatically give her custody of the children. Victoria is parentified, directing Mother
how to behave during visits and suggesting that Mother file a petition for modification.
       Since entering foster care, V.G. made great progress. She and O.L. are happy and
well-adjusted, displaying no behavioral or emotional issues. Mother received 18 months
of services (from March 2012 to September 2013) but was noncompliant. She recently
began a stable and medicated lifestyle. Nevertheless, she continues to have delusions and
her prognosis is uncertain. Neither child views her as a parent, referring to her by her
first name.
       On June 12, 2014, the court heard Mother’s modification request and conducted
the section 366.26 hearing. Mother testified that she has used prescribed medication for
four months, which helps her focus, feel happy, and stops her from yelling at strangers.
She did not previously use medications during this case. Now she understands that the
dependency system is beneficial, she can move forward, has a place to live, drives,
works, and can safely care for the children. During visits, she and the children play,
watch television, read, and eat. Mother resided with Victoria from her birth in 1996 until
losing custody in 2000. She regained custody of Victoria in 2005, and feels that she did a
wonderful job of childrearing. Mother believes that it would be better for the children to
live with her because “I’m a good mom,” they love each other, she needs them, and feels

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that she can make them into smart, responsible adults. They are happy to see her and hug
her. She receives therapy and plans to continue using medication.
       On cross-examination, Mother stated that she has only had emotional difficulties
for the last year and a half, and never had problems before that. She acknowledged that
she is bipolar, with psychosis. She did not recall telling her therapist that she refused to
take medication because it was going to poison her, although she recalled saying that the
children are being cloned, terming it a “theory.” Mother’s attorney argued that she “is on
a positive track with respect to getting her life together . . . [and] in time, her condition
and her situation [are] going to improve even more.” The children’s attorney asked the
court to deny a modification because circumstances are not changed, only changing. The
children are bonded to their caretakers, where they have spent most of their lives. DCFS
described Mother’s condition as chronic and unresolved because she continues to be
delusional, even with medication, and is inconsistent with therapy.
       The court denied Mother’s petition, because four months of medication “is not
enough, when you consider the long, lifetime chronic problem that Mother has had with
mental illness and her inability or lack of desire to treat it with medication. I have no
reason to believe that she’s going to stay on Abilify, even if it’s working. And if she
doesn’t, I got two little children, a two- and four-year-old who are going to be in
jeopardy.” The court concluded that “the situation has not changed to the state where I
would feel confident that Mother can keep these children safe.” While Mother expressed
her desire to have the children, there is no showing that she has the interests of the
children at heart, and it is not in their best interest to live with Mother or be taken away
from people who have raised them and whom they view as their parents. Mother has had
ample opportunity to stay on medication, but refused to do so. The children deserve
permanency and there is no reason to delay while Mother is given further opportunities.
       After denying additional reunification services, the court terminated parental
rights. The court acknowledged Mother’s desire to parent and Victoria’s desire to be the
sibling, yet it is not in the children’s best interest to sever bonds with the only caregivers
they know and consider their mother and father. The children deserve permanency in a

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household where they know who their parents are and are not subjected to drama from
someone who refuses or forgets to take medication. With respect to Mother and Victoria,
their visits “are not of such a nature and quality to say this bond is so strong that it should
not be broken.” Thus, no exception to the preference for adoption applies. The court
found that the children are adoptable, are likely to be adopted by the M. family, and it
would be detrimental to return them to the parents. Mother and Victoria appeal.
                                       DISCUSSION
1. Petition for Modification
       When the court terminates reunification services, this “ordinarily constitutes a
sufficient basis for terminating parental rights.” (In re K.C. (2011) 52 Cal.4th 231, 236-
237.) A parent may revive the reunification issue only by demonstrating changed
circumstances. (§ 388; In re Nolan W. (2009) 45 Cal.4th 1217, 1235; Kimberly H. v.
Superior Court (2000) 83 Cal.App.4th 67, 72; In re Casey D. (1999) 70 Cal.App.4th 38,
47.) There must be a genuine change in circumstances such that the child’s best interests
will be promoted by the proposed change in order. (In re Anthony W. (2001) 87
Cal.App.4th 246, 250; In re Carl R. (2005) 128 Cal.App.4th 1051, 1071.) To make this
determination, the court may consider the entire factual and procedural history of the
case. (In re Jackson W. (2010) 184 Cal.App.4th 247, 258; In re Justice P. (2004) 123
Cal.App.4th 181, 189.) The ruling cannot be reversed unless there is a clear abuse of
discretion—an arbitrary, capricious or patently absurd determination that exceeds the
bounds of reason. (In re Stephanie M. (1994) 7 Cal.4th 295, 318; In re A.S. (2009) 180
Cal.App.4th 351, 358.)
       a. Changed Circumstances
       Mother argues that she established changed circumstances by starting to use an
antipsychotic drug, which regulates her moods and gives her better interactions with
others, including the children. She regularly visits. The record supports Mother’s
argument that she has started treatment for her mental illness. But the record does not
support a conclusion that circumstances have changed.



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       Mother previously participated in mental health counseling and was given
prescriptions for antipsychotic drugs, without success. She repeatedly relapsed,
convinced that she did not need treatment. During relapses, she displayed bizarre and
frightening behavior during visits with the children. According to her testimony, she
began taking medication in February 2014, five months after the court ended
reunification services, when it became apparent that her parental rights would be
terminated. She continues to have delusions, according to her therapist, and cannot be
left alone with the children, lest she abscond with them. Mother is not currently able to
provide the children with a stable, safe, permanent home. Without a showing of parental
ability to provide a safe home, an 11th-hour attempt to extend the dependency proceeding
is unavailing. (In re A.S., supra, 180 Cal.App.4th at p. 358.)
       Merely participating in counseling, medicating, and visiting the children are not
proof of changed circumstances. (In re Anthony W., supra, 87 Cal.App.4th at p. 251.)
The juvenile court saw Mother’s behavior and was not satisfied that the mental issues
leading to the dependency proceeding have been resolved. At this stage, “changing”
circumstances are not enough: the court need not delay the selection of a permanent plan
to see if a parent who repeatedly failed to reunify with the child might be able to reform
and reunify at some point in the future. (In re Baby Boy L. (1994) 24 Cal.App.4th 596,
610; In re Casey D., supra, 70 Cal.App.4th at p. 47.)
       b. Best Interests of the Child
       In determining a child’s best interest, the court considers (1) the seriousness of the
reason for dependency jurisdiction; (2) the strength of the bonds between the child, the
parent and the caretakers; and (3) whether the problems leading to dependency may be
easily removed or ameliorated. (In re Kimberly F. (1997) 56 Cal.App.4th 519, 530-532.)
       Mother’s history is highly relevant to any discussion of her parental fitness and the
children’s best interests. The record shows that Mother has resisted treatment for years.
With multiple instances of psychosis and involuntary hospitalizations, Mother had a long
way to go to prove parental fitness. She has not progressed to unmonitored visitation, let
alone demonstrated an ability to take custody. For most of the proceeding, she was

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homeless. The children showed no separation anxiety when visits with Mother were
over, which tends to discount the strength of the maternal bond. On the contrary, they are
anxious when separated from the home where they have spent most of their lives. The
M.’s are their “mommy and daddy” and their “family.” They refer to Mother as “[E.]”
and either actively dislike visiting her or are indifferent and lack affection. On the eve of
the permanent plan hearing, the children’s interest in permanency and stability outweighs
Mother’s interest in reunification. (In re Marilyn H. (1993) 5 Cal.4th 295, 309; In re
Anthony W., supra, 87 Cal.App.4th at pp. 251-252.) The court properly denied Mother’s
petition for a modification.
2. Termination of Parental Rights
       At the section 366.26 hearing, the court must select adoption as the permanent
plan and terminate parental rights if the children are likely to be adopted.3 (§ 366.26,
subd. (c)(1); In re Celine R. (2003) 31 Cal.4th 45, 49; In re S.B. (2009) 46 Cal.4th 529,
532.) Adoption is the plan preferred by the Legislature. (In re Derek W. (1999) 73
Cal.App.4th 823, 826; In re Ronell A. (1995) 44 Cal.App.4th 1352, 1368.) Termination
of parental rights can only be avoided by showing why a statutory exception applies, and
that termination would be detrimental to the children. (In re Celine R. at p. 53; In re
Derek W. at p. 826; In re Melvin A. (2000) 82 Cal.App.4th 1243, 1252.)
       a. Parent-Child Bond Exception
       The parent-child bond statutory exception requires a showing that Mother has
“maintained regular visitation and contact” and there is a “compelling reason” to believe
that ending the parental relationship would be detrimental to the children. (§ 366.26,
subd. (c)(1)(B).) She bears the burden of proving that they would be “greatly” harmed by
termination of parental rights, and that she holds a “parental” role. (In re Brittany C.
(1999) 76 Cal.App.4th 847, 853; In re Angel B. (2002) 97 Cal.App.4th 454, 466-468.)
       Mother must show both prongs of the exception: regular visitation and a benefit to
the child if the relationship were continued that outweighs the well-being the child would

3      Mother does not dispute that the children will be adopted.

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gain in a new home with adoptive parents. As to the first prong, Mother failed to visit the
children from March 1 to the end of November 2012, following their detention. A nine-
month delay in visiting children who were (at detention) eight months and 20 months old
is significant. At such a tender age, the children predictably bonded with the people who
provided them with full-time nurturing. When Mother began visiting at the end of 2012,
the children already referred to the M.’s as “mommy” and “daddy.” They persisted in
considering the M.’s to be their parents and family throughout this case.
       As to the second prong, the juvenile court determined that the children’s
relationship with Mother is not so significant that they would be greatly harmed if it were
severed. Mother does not attempt to argue in her brief that termination of parental rights
will harm the children. Instead, she focuses on their pleasant visits.
       The court’s determination is supported by substantial evidence. (In re Autumn H.
(1994) 27 Cal.App.4th 567, 576.) The children’s detention began when O.L. was an
infant and V.G. was one and a half, when Mother was involuntarily hospitalized for being
a danger to herself or others and gravely disabled. She had multiple prior psychiatric
hospitalizations. Mother exposed the children to bizarre and erratic behavior, and an
unstable home in which she left the children without proper care for extended periods.
She did not treat her mental illness because she denied having one. Mother did not visit
the children for nine months after they were detained. While visits initially went well,
Mother became agitated and verbally aggressive by August 2013, making outrageous
accusations against DCFS staff members, upsetting the children and causing her visits to
be prematurely terminated. Mother’s behavior during monitored visits affected the
children’s emotional well-being.
       As a result of Mother’s history of psychotic behavior and unexplained
disappearances, she was unable to have unmonitored, weekend or extended visits, let
alone custody of the children. Mother’s therapist felt that unmonitored visits would be
risky because “she still has delusions” and could abscond with the children. A showing
that a child would be greatly harmed by termination of parental rights is difficult to make
when, as here, “the parents have . . . [not] advanced beyond supervised visitation.” (In re

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Casey D., supra, 70 Cal.App.4th at p. 51.) A true parental relationship would not require
a third party to monitor parent-child visits.
       Mother argues that she consistently visited, and the visits were positive and
appropriate. Even frequent and loving contact between parent and child is not sufficient
to establish the requisite benefit to the child if Mother does not occupy a parental role and
is unable to take custody. (In re Teneka W. (1995) 37 Cal.App.4th 721, 728; In re
Beatrice M. (1994) 29 Cal.App.4th 1411, 1418-1419; In re Andrea R. (1999) 75
Cal.App.4th 1093, 1108-1109.) Mother’s brief fails to note evidence that her visits had a
negative impact on the children, who wanted to remain at the foster home, or near the
foster mother, instead of being with Mother. Mother’s outbursts caused V.G. to scream
and cry, and have uncontrollable tantrums for a week. Both children bluntly stated that
they do not want to live with Mother, and she is not family to them. The foster parents
are “mommy” and “daddy” and neither V.G. nor O.L. see Mother as a parent.
       The children are fully bonded with their prospective adoptive parents. They see
Mother as “[E],” who brings them snacks, reads to them, and watches television or plays
games with them. A relationship that is “pleasant” is not enough to establish a benefit to
the child because “it bears no resemblance to the sort of consistent, daily nurturing that
marks a parental relationship.” (In re Derek W., supra, 73 Cal.App.4th at p. 827.)
“Interaction between natural parent and child will always confer some incidental benefit
to the child.” (In re Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at p. 575.)
       Apart from the incidental benefit of parent-child interaction, we must consider
“the many variables which affect a parent/child bond. The age of the child, the portion of
the child’s life spent in the parent’s custody, the ‘positive’ or ‘negative’ effect of
interaction between parent and child, and the child’s particular needs are some of the
variables which logically affect a parent/child bond.” (In re Autumn H., supra, 27
Cal.App.4th at p. 576.) Both children deny ever living with Mother. They have no
recollection of her as a parent because they were so young when removed from her care.
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resisted seeing her after she had psychotic events during visits in 2013. Mother does not
occupy a parental role for her children, and they frankly do not want to live with her.
       Mother does not dispute that the children are thriving in their placement. She did
not carry her burden of showing that the children would be greatly harmed by the
termination of her parental rights, or that the benefits of continuing their relationship
outweigh the benefits of a stable, permanent home. The juvenile court could reasonably
find that Mother’s relationship is not beneficial. In a guardianship or continued foster
care, the children would have an unstable placement. It would be not be in the children’s
best interests—indeed, it would be cruel—to take the children away from the M.’s,
people they describe as “family.” Where, as here, a child is likely to be adopted, the
court must choose “the most permanent and secure alternative that can be afforded.”
(In re Beatrice M., supra, 29 Cal.App.4th at p. 1419.)
       b. Sibling Relationship Exception
       Mother and Victoria argue that adoption by the M.’s creates a risk that V.G. and
O.L. will lose contact with Victoria. They assert that the legislative preference for
adoption does not apply in this case because “[t]here would be substantial interference
with a child’s sibling relationship, taking into consideration the nature and extent of the
relationship, including, but not limited to, whether the child was raised with a sibling in
the same home, whether the child shared significant common experiences or has existing
close and strong bonds with a sibling, and whether ongoing contact is in the child’s best
interest, including the child’s long-term emotional interest, as compared to the benefit of
legal permanence through adoption.” (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(v).)
       The sibling relationship exception presents a two-step process. First, the court
determines whether terminating parental rights would substantially interfere with the
sibling relationship, considering the nature and extent of the relationship, whether the
children were raised together, and significant common experiences or existing close and
strong bonds. Second, if terminating parental rights would substantially interfere with the
sibling relationship, the court must weigh the child’s best interest in continuing the
relationship against the benefits the child would enjoy in a permanent adoptive home.

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(In re Celine R., supra, 31 Cal.4th at p. 61; In re L.Y.L. (2002) 101 Cal.App.4th 942, 951-
952; In re Hector A. (2005) 125 Cal.App.4th 783, 794.) The party opposing adoption
bears a “heavy burden” of proving the exception. (In re Celine R., at p. 61.)
              1. Interference with the Sibling Relationship
       The evidence shows that O.L. spent his first eight months and V.G. spent her first
20 months residing with Victoria. The siblings had significantly different experiences,
due to the 14- to 15-year age gap between them. Victoria’s experience was that of a
babysitter, changing diapers and feeding her siblings in Mother’s absences. O.L. and
V.G. are too young to recall ever living in Mother’s home. Once removed from Mother’s
care, the siblings lived together for one month before Victoria was removed when the
foster mother found drug paraphernalia.
       Victoria exercised poor judgment in foster care, disappearing for months, inviting
men into her room, and having unauthorized visits with Mother. For much of this
proceeding, Victoria was AWOL from foster care, living in Nevada, living with Mother,
or tending to a newborn. During those periods, she did not visit O.L. and V.G.
       Victoria has no insight into Mother’s mental illness, and tends to ignore or
minimize it, going so far as to say that Mother only pretends to be mentally ill to qualify
for benefits. She characterized this proceeding as “a waste of time.” Multiple caregivers
asked for Victoria to be removed from their homes. She was a bad influence on other
foster children. Victoria became pregnant at 16, abandoned her baby at a foster home,
used drugs while breastfeeding, and was arrested for tagging graffiti in the presence of
her child, who was detained. Victoria was intoxicated at the time of arrest. Given
Victoria’s attitude and behavior, it is doubtful that her relationship with O.L. and V.G. is
beneficial. Even if she acts appropriately during monitored visits, Victoria is not a role
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       The evidence does not suggest that reduced sibling interaction would be
detrimental to O.L. and V.G.4 They apparently coped well when Victoria was removed
from their communal foster home. There was no evidence presented that the children
“other than being sad, would suffer detriment if the [sibling] relationship ended.” (In re
L.Y.L., supra, 101 Cal.App.4th at p. 952.) Moreover, the M. family signed a contract
indicating that they are willing to allow sibling visits.5 The willingness of the
prospective adoptive family to facilitate sibling visits is a factor demonstrating that there
will not be a substantial interference with the sibling relationship. (In re Megan S. (2002)
104 Cal.App.4th 247, 254.)
       It bears emphasizing that Victoria is an adult, whereas O.L. and V.G. are young
children. They will likely spend less time together as Victoria cares for her daughter Eli,
works, or goes to school, regardless of whether her siblings are adopted or remain in
foster care.
               2. The Children’s Best Interests
       O.L. and V.G. have lived with the M.’s nearly all of their lives, are closely bonded
to them, and want to continue living with their “mommy” and “daddy,” whom they
recognize as family. They would have stability and permanency if adopted by the M.
family. “[A]s children age, they become more difficult to place for adoption.” (In re
Megan S., supra, 104 Cal.App.4th at p. 253.) The juvenile court could reasonably
conclude that O.L. and V.G. deserve familial permanency, instead of being “within the
dependency system in perpetuity.” (Id. at p. 254.)
       Even if adoption would interfere to some extent with the sibling relationship, the
juvenile court was well within its discretion to determine that the benefit to O.L. and


4      Our analysis is limited to the possible impact upon the children being adopted.
We do not consider any detriment to Victoria because the focus is on the best interests of
the adoptive child, not the child’s siblings. (In re Celine R., supra, 31 Cal.4th at pp. 54-
55; In re Naomi P. (2005) 132 Cal.App.4th 808, 822.)
5      With the consent of the M. family, the court may include in any final order
provisions for postadoption sibling contact. (§ 366.29, subd. (a).)

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V.G. of a permanent home outweighs the importance of the sibling relationship. While
the siblings in this case enjoy their visits, they are not emotionally dependent upon one
another. Victoria’s pleasant visits are not significant enough to militate against adoption.
Neither Mother nor Victoria carried her burden of showing that adoption would be
detrimental to O.L. and V.G.

                                     DISPOSITION
       The judgment is affirmed.
       NOT TO BE PUBLISHED IN THE OFFICIAL REPORTS.


                                          BOREN, P.J.
We concur:


       CHAVEZ, J.


       HOFFSTADT, J.




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