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              IN THE COURT OF APPEAL OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA

                                     SECOND APPELLATE DISTRICT

                                                  DIVISION TWO


In re LINCOLN M., a Person Coming                                    B247636
Under the Juvenile Court Law.                                        (Los Angeles County
                                                                     Super. Ct. No. CK49156)


LOS ANGELES COUNTY
DEPARTMENT OF CHILDREN
AND FAMILY SERVICES,

         Plaintiff and Respondent,

         v.

JENNIFER M.,

         Defendant and Appellant.



         APPEAL from a judgment of the Superior Court of Los Angeles County.
Elizabeth Kim, Juvenile Court Referee. Affirmed.
         Patti L. Dikes, under appointment by the Court of Appeal, for Defendant and
Appellant.
         John F. Krattli, County Counsel, James M. Owens, Assistant County Counsel,
Navid Nakhjavani, Deputy County Counsel, for Plaintiff and Respondent.
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       Jennifer M. (Mother) has a long history of drug use and failed rehabilitations. As
a result, her older children were permanently placed with other families. Last year,
Mother‟s son Lincoln M. was born with methamphetamine in his bloodstream. Mother
asks us to ignore her history and focus on the possibility of a brighter future. Like the
juvenile court, we see evidence of changing circumstances, not changed circumstances.
Mother‟s recently renewed effort to attain sobriety does not outweigh Lincoln‟s need for
permanency. We affirm the orders denying Mother‟s petition for a modification and
terminating her parental rights. (Welf. & Inst. Code, §§ 388, 366.26.)1
                                          FACTS
       In 2002, the Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS) petitioned on
behalf of Mother‟s daughters Valerie and C. The juvenile court found that Mother
physically abused Valerie by striking her with a belt; Mother failed to protect the children
by leaving them with their physically abusive grandmother; Mother made inappropriate
plans for the children‟s care and supervision by leaving them with their abusive
grandmother or a family friend, and allowing strangers to walk them home from school;
Mother has a history of substance abuse that includes heroin, alcohol, methamphetamine
(meth), and marijuana, and currently abuses drugs, rendering her incapable of providing
regular child care; Mother created a detrimental and endangering home environment for
the children by abusing drugs in their presence and having drugs and paraphernalia
within access of the children; Mother endangered the children by driving them while
under the influence of drugs; and Mother left the children without making plans for their
return home or providing them with the necessities of life. The court terminated
reunification services in July 2003. C. was adopted in 2005, and Valerie was
permanently placed with nonrelated legal guardians.
       In May 2012, DCFS was alerted that Mother‟s newborn child Lincoln tested
positive for meth, as did Mother. When interviewed at the hospital, Mother claimed



1      All statutory references in this opinion are to the Welfare and Institutions Code.


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seven years of sobriety until she started “hanging out with the wrong crowd” in 2010,
causing her to relapse. She admitted using meth two weeks before giving birth.
Lincoln‟s father Ramon M. (Father) stated that he has a 14-year-old daughter from a prior
relationship, but in 2004 he was convicted and served prison time for molesting her.
Mother separated from Father in January 2012, “after he kicked the other woman they
were having a threesome with out of the home.” Father understood that DCFS would not
release Lincoln into his custody because of his child abuse conviction. Mother and
Father began dating in 2005 and were married in 2010.
       Though Father denied awareness that Mother was currently abusing drugs, his
sister, a nurse, warned him early in his relationship that Mother had the signs of a drug
user. Mother acted irrationally and left the home for days at a time. The paternal aunt
described Mother as “a manipulator that lies and twists words to make herself out as the
victim.” The paternal grandfather stated that Mother admitted to him three months earlier
that she had used drugs, but stopped. He congratulated her for stopping and told her to be
careful because she was pregnant.
       Mr. and Mrs. M., the legal guardians of Mother‟s child Valerie, expressed
willingness to have Lincoln placed in their home and adopt him if Mother fails to reunify.
They have been caring for Valerie for three years and would welcome her sibling. Mrs.
M. stated that Mother frequently lies: she has known Mother since high school, which is
how she ended up as Valerie‟s guardian. Mother provided documentation that she was
undergoing cancer treatment. Mother favored placing Lincoln with the M. family.
       Based on Mother‟s drug history, her failure to reunify with two older children,
Lincoln‟s positive screen for meth, and Father‟s child molestation conviction, DCFS
detained Lincoln in hospital care. DCFS assessed the risk of future abuse and neglect as
“very high.” DCFS recommended that Mother complete an in-patient drug program with
random testing, individual counseling, and parenting, with monitored visitation for both
parents.
       On June 4, 2012, DCFS filed a petition on behalf of Lincoln. It alleges that
Lincoln was born with a positive toxicology screen for meth, and Mother tested positive

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as well. Mother has a long history of substance abuse that renders her incapable of
providing regular care, and her daughters received permanent placement services due to
Mother‟s substance abuse. The petition also alleges that Father sexually abused
Lincoln‟s sibling and is a registered sex offender with a conviction for lewd or lascivious
acts with a child under the age of 14. Mother‟s drug abuse and Father‟s sexual abuse
place Lincoln at risk of harm. The juvenile court found a prima facie case for detaining
Lincoln from both parents.
       DCFS submitted a jurisdiction/disposition report. Discussing Mother‟s prior
history, DCFS noted that it received a referral that Mother left Valerie and C. for a month
in day care and never returned to pick them up. Mother had gone to participate in a drug
program to overcome use of marijuana and “speed.” Mother‟s skin had needle marks and
“lumps as a result of shooting meth.”
       In an interview, Mother admitted using meth two days before Lincoln was born,
claiming that “prior to her relapse two days before delivery she had been clean since
August 2005.” Mother ascribed her relapse to marital discord with Father. Mother
denied ever using heroin or alcohol, only marijuana and meth. Mother completed a drug
treatment program in prison in 2005, but lost custody of her daughters due to her drug
history. Mother used marijuana during her cancer treatment, but stopped when she found
out she was pregnant. Her cancer is now in remission.
       Mother indicated that she first used drugs at age 13. Initially, her usage was a few
times weekly, but later escalated to daily use. Mother considers herself to be an addict,
and is committed to completing a residential treatment program. She plans to attend 12-
step meetings to maintain sobriety when the drug program ends. Mother asserted that her
main goal is to regain custody of Lincoln and remain sober, saying “I‟m a different
person. I‟m done doing [drugs]. I‟m done going to jail.” Mother‟s parents were heroin
addicts. She was raised by her maternal aunt and grandmother.
       Mother knows that Father is a registered sex offender but is unconcerned about it.
After noting that Father participated in two years of counseling, she added, “„I think the
whole thing got blown out of proportion. . . . From what his friends and family say

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[Father] was holding his daughter and she had a dress on and he had his hands under her
dress on her bottom. That was it. He thinks it was inappropriate, but from what it sounds
like it wasn‟t.‟” Mother is aware that Father admitted to police that he molested his
daughter, but she does not believe that a molestation occurred.
       For his part, Father learned of Mother‟s drug use while at the hospital visiting
Lincoln. When a nurse informed him that Mother and Lincoln tested positive for meth,
Mother told Father that “„the hospital made a mistake and that she did not use drugs.‟”
He could not believe that Mother used drugs while pregnant, but added that he did not
understand how he could have molested his own daughter, either. He knew Mother had a
history of substance abuse but she told him she had kicked the habit and was clean for six
years. During their marriage, Mother would frequently leave and not return for long
periods. He “just thought she was hanging out with her friends” during her weeks- or
months-long absences. In January 2012, Mother left to go to church and never returned.
She asked to come home shortly before Lincoln‟s birth in May 2012, but Father said no.
During one of Mother‟s disappearances in 2011, she told him she had to be “clean”
before she returned home. Father does not understand drug behavior or why Mother
cannot just stop using drugs.
       Father conceded that he molested his daughter by putting his hands beneath her
underwear, but denied digital penetration. He completed twice the amount of required
counseling to help himself understand his actions, which he found disturbing. At the
time, Father was having an internal struggle regarding his sexual orientation and had
difficulties in his relationship with the child‟s mother. He believes that the molestation
was a way to get back at his wife, rather than sexual gratification. Father was sexually
molested by a man in his neighborhood when he was a child. Father was honest and
forthcoming about his conduct.
       Mother visited Lincoln once a week for an hour, since June 6, 2012. Lincoln was
brought by a monitor to see Mother at her treatment facility. Father also visited Lincoln
once a week for an hour. Assessing the family‟s situation, the social worker expressed
disbelief that Mother was clean for seven years before using meth while pregnant with

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Lincoln. Father indicated that Mother disappeared in 2011, and told him she did not want
to return home until she was clean; further, a mandated reporting party contacted DCFS
in January 2011 to say that Mother was arrested when she was pulled over and found to
have drugs in her possession. Mother continues to struggle with drug abuse and is
presently in a residential program. DCFS asked that neither parent receive reunification
services because Mother failed to reunify with two older children and Father is a
registered sex offender.
       Mother waived her right to a trial and submitted on the basis of the DCFS reports
and other documents. Father requested a trial on the petition. Pending trial, DCFS
reported in July 2012 that Mother actively participates in her treatment program. She
tested negative for drugs on June 13, 2012, when she entered the program. She also
tested negative on July 11, 2012.
       DCFS noted that after Mother completed a substance abuse program while
incarcerated in 2005, she participated in 12-step meetings several times per week.
Mother was granted unmonitored and overnight visits with Valerie in 2006; however, in
February 2008, Mother was restricted to monitored visits due to her anger management
issues, conflict between her and Valerie, and Valerie‟s feelings that she was not safe with
Mother. Four years later, Mother‟s contacts with Valerie continue to be monitored.
       On July 24, 2012, the court sustained an allegation that Mother has a 13-year
history of substance abuse and currently abuses meth, rendering her incapable of
providing regular care for Lincoln. Both Mother and Lincoln tested positive for meth
when the child was born. Mother‟s two daughters received permanent placement
services due to Mother‟s drug abuse, which endangers Lincoln‟s health and safety and
places him at risk of harm.
       At a hearing on July 31, 2012, the court found that Lincoln is a two-month-old
child whose parents have a history of child abuse. Mother physically abused her two
daughters and abused drugs; as a result, Mother did not reunify with her children and one
of them was adopted after Mother‟s parental rights were terminated. Father sexually
abused his daughter when she was five years old, for which he was convicted in 2004. In

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violation of the rules regarding registered sex offenders, Father spent time alone with
Mother‟s daughter Valerie, resulting in a child abuse referral. The court sustained counts
that Father sexually abused his daughter, is a registered sex offender, and his conduct
places Lincoln at risk of harm. The court declared Lincoln a dependent of the juvenile
court.
         Moving to disposition, counsel and the court noted that Mother relapsed in 2010,
after completing a required drug program in jail, and continued to use drugs until Lincoln
was born in 2012. The parents are not requesting custody or even unmonitored contact
with their newborn. At best, giving them reunification services merely postpones
permanency for Lincoln, as the parents have never lived with the child and have no hope
of obtaining custody in the foreseeable future. Over Mother‟s and Father‟s objections,
the court denied reunification services and set a hearing to select a permanent plan.
         In November 2012, Mother petitioned for a modification. As a changed
circumstance, she cited completion of a 120-day inpatient drug program, 12 weeks of
domestic violence classes, and an anger management course. She has enrolled in an
outpatient aftercare program and has tested negative for drugs. Mother asked the court to
give her custody of Lincoln, or reunification services and unmonitored visits. She
consistently visits Lincoln and believes she has taken all necessary action to maintain a
healthier lifestyle. It is in Lincoln‟s best interest to be with Mother “as it is always the
goal to reunify families.” The court scheduled a hearing on Mother‟s petition.
         In November 2012, DCFS reported that Lincoln does not demonstrate
developmental, behavioral or mental health problems. Mother and Father behave
appropriately during monitored visits. DCFS identified Mr. and Mrs. M., the legal
guardians of Lincoln‟s 17-year-old half sister Valerie, as prospective adoptive parents.
The M.‟s and Valerie have day visits with Lincoln. The court continued the permanent
plan hearing to obtain a home study for the prospective adoptive family.
         In January 2013, Lincoln‟s caregivers, Mr. and Mrs. W., requested that they
become his adoptive parents if his natural parents fail to reunify with him. Lincoln is
attached to the W. family. Lincoln‟s pediatrician is very happy with the child‟s

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development throughout his placement with the W. family, saying that they “have taken
excellent care of him.” Lincoln has lived with the W.‟s since he was five days old.
       DCFS reported that Lincoln “appears to be happy, secure, bonded, expressive and
well adjusted in his present family.” Mother and Father have joint monitored two-hour
visits weekly. Lincoln‟s half sister Valerie and her legal guardians had four unmonitored
weekend visits with Lincoln; they had not seen Lincoln for the last six weeks. The
current foster home—which is approved for adoption—continues to be the most suitable
for Lincoln. He has received excellent care there for the full eight months of his life, and
is being raised and loved like the W.‟s own child. DCFS noted that Mother is currently
the subject of an arrest warrant in Orange County on felony charges of second degree
burglary and forgery.
       Visitation notes from September to November 2012 indicate that Mother and
Father have enjoyable visits. They feed and burp Lincoln, soothe him with a pacifier,
change his diaper, say caring things and are attentive to his needs. Lincoln is happy to
receive all the attention from adults. The M. family continued to be interested in
adopting Lincoln, after caring for his half sister Valerie for four years. Valerie described
the M.‟s as “great parents” although she does not feel emotionally close to them.
       DCFS responded to Mother‟s petition for a modification. It offered Mother‟s
lengthy rap sheet, which includes a misdemeanor conviction for misappropriating
property (2001); arrests for forgery, driving without a license and burglary (2003); a
felony conviction for passing false checks (2003); a misdemeanor conviction for being
under the influence of a controlled substance (2003); a felony conviction for an
assortment of drug-related crimes, including the sale of drugs and being a felon in
possession of a firearm (2004); a felony conviction for drug crimes such as possessing a
controlled substance for sale and drug paraphernalia (2010); a misdemeanor conviction
for possessing drug paraphernalia (2011); and felony convictions for being under the
influence and possessing drugs (2011). In addition, Mother has a 1996 federal conviction
for drug smuggling with the intent to distribute.



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       DCFS agreed that Mother completed a residential drug program, enrolled in an
outpatient treatment program, and took domestic violence and anger management classes.
She has submitted to drug testing. Mother has attended 42 AA/NA meetings since
entering the program in October 2012. Mother was having difficulty finding work, due to
her criminal history.
       Mother and Father consistently visit every week and are appropriate during visits,
feeding Lincoln, changing his diaper, cleaning him, and consoling him. Lincoln laughs
and smiles at everyone. The foster mother could not tell if Lincoln recognizes his
parents, in particular, because he is good-natured and reacts well to everyone. Mother
said that she has learned a lot and is now able to raise a child. With her older children, “I
didn‟t really care because I didn‟t know how to.” She wants to be a person her children
can respect and a good parent.
       DCFS observed that Mother is very motivated to regain custody of Lincoln and
began participating in a drug treatment program without the juvenile court ordering her to
do so, although one of the conditions of her criminal probation is completion of a six-
month drug program. Her visits are of high quality. Despite Mother‟s efforts, she has
used drugs since age 13, going so far as to smoke and inject meth. She has participated in
drug programs before, only to return to drug use. In 2002, Mother was discharged from a
drug treatment program for threatening another resident; before her discharge Mother
was doing well, with perfect attendance and negative drug tests. Mother enrolled in
another program from which she was discharged in 2003 for again threatening another
resident. Mother enrolled in a third program but left after three weeks. Afterward, she
told her a DCFS caseworker, she started using heroin. Mother completed a drug program
while incarcerated in 2004-2005.
       After completing the prison program, Mother remained sober for five years
(perhaps explaining the gap in her arrest records), then began using meth in 2010.
Mother used drugs several times a week because she did not have the money to use daily.
She has mental problems arising from a traumatic childhood, including being born
addicted to heroin, and was abused, neglected and abandoned by her drug-addicted

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parents. Mother makes inconsistent statements about her drug use. Although she now
denies ever using heroin, Mother told an DCFS investigator in 2002 that she smoked
heroin, and told a social worker in 2003 that she had starting using heroin “again.”
Mother‟s risk of relapse is high, given her history and her willingness to use drugs while
pregnant. Mother continued to participate in counseling, parent education, anger
management classes, and drug testing.
       The court conducted a combined hearing on February 13, 2013. It first addressed
Mother‟s petition for modification. Mother‟s drug and alcohol counselor acknowledged
that Mother “made a huge mistake in her past. I know that she has a past with drug
abuse. However, I believe that she has changed. And I believe that she can maintain
sobriety” because she has a circle of sober friends, has a sponsor, and attends group
meetings four times a week, sometimes twice a day. Mother tests weekly and all the
results since October 24 have been negative. Mother will complete the program in April,
but asked for six to nine months more. The drug counselor believes Mother is motivated
to persevere, be a good mother, and live a drug-free lifestyle. The counselor is not a
licensed therapist. Though Mother did not mention it to her, the counselor was aware
that Mother tested positive for meth when she gave birth to Lincoln, and has used
marijuana, alcohol and heroin during her lifetime.
       Mother argued that she has changed for the better, and it would be in Lincoln‟s
best interests to reunify because they have formed a bond during six months of consistent
visits. DCFS responded that Mother “has been down this road before many times,”
losing her children in the process, and using drugs while pregnant. The court observed
that Mother has completed numerous drug treatment programs and is currently in an
outpatient program, essentially testing clean for the duration. The court found that “there
are changing circumstances, and that mother has made progress and has taken steps
toward sobriety. However, the evidence before the court indicates that the mother has in
the past completed an inpatient program, that she, in fact, was clean for five years and
then she relapsed, including taking drugs during the time that she was pregnant with this
child, who is at issue today.” It would not be in Lincoln‟s best interest to grant the

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petition because Lincoln has spent his life in foster care with a family that is offering him
a permanent home.
       The court heard Father‟s testimony with respect to the permanent placement plan.
He stated that he has visited Lincoln weekly since the petition was filed, monitored by the
foster parents. Lincoln recognizes and responds to Father, smiling and reaching for
Father. Father feels a bond between them. Lincoln would benefit from continuing the
relationship because “I‟m his father” and he can teach the child many things, including
how to speak Spanish. The prospective adoptive parents stated that they would allow
Father to visit Lincoln after the adoption.
       Mother testified that she has visited Lincoln once per week since birth. Initially,
the visits were one hour, while she was at the inpatient drug program; after completing
the program, Mother‟s visits extended to two hours. While Lincoln was an infant, she
would feed and sing to him, and change his diaper. She brings age-appropriate toys for
him and encourages him to crawl and move. Lincoln reacts positively when he sees her,
and he would benefit from continuing the relationship. Their visits are monitored. The
W. family is open to visits following adoption.
       Lincoln‟s attorney joined with DCFS and asked the court to terminate parental
rights. The court found that Lincoln is adoptable and it would be detrimental to return
him to his parents. The parents have regularly visited Lincoln since his detention,
availing themselves of monitored visitation. Balancing their continuing relationship
against the security of a permanent adoptive home, the court found that Lincoln has been
in foster care since he was five days old. When Lincoln was initially placed, he was
suffering the effects of meth, and was restless, tortured, and twitching. The foster parents
sought hospital instructions on how to care for an addicted child and help him progress.
The twitching and jitteriness stopped at the age of four months. Neither Mother nor
Father testified that they sought instructions for caring for a meth-addicted infant. They
failed to carry their burden of proving the parent-child relationship exception to the law
favoring adoption and permanency. The court terminated parental rights and identified
the permanent plan as adoption with the foster parents. Mother appeals.

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                                      DISCUSSION
1. Denial of Mother’s Petition for a Modification
       When the court denies or terminates reunification services, this “ordinarily
constitutes a sufficient basis for terminating parental rights.” (In re K.C. (2011) 52
Cal.4th 231, 236-237.) A parent may revive the reunification issue only by
demonstrating changed circumstances. (§ 388; In re Nolan W. (2009) 45 Cal.4th 1217,
1235; Kimberly H. v. Superior Court (2000) 83 Cal.App.4th 67, 72; In re Casey D.
(1999) 70 Cal.App.4th 38, 47.) There must be a genuine change in circumstances such
that the child‟s best interests will be promoted by the proposed change in order. (In re
Anthony W. (2001) 87 Cal.App.4th 246, 250; In re Carl R. (2005) 128 Cal.App.4th 1051,
1071.) To make this determination, the court may consider the entire factual and
procedural history of the case. (In re Jackson W. (2010) 184 Cal.App.4th 247, 258; In re
Justice P. (2004) 123 Cal.App.4th 181, 189.) The ruling cannot be reversed unless there
is a clear abuse of discretion—an arbitrary, capricious or patently absurd determination
that exceeds the bounds of reason. (In re Stephanie M. (1994) 7 Cal.4th 295, 318; In re
A.S. (2009) 180 Cal.App.4th 351, 358.)
       a. Changed Circumstances
       Mother argues that she established changed circumstances by completing an
inpatient drug treatment program, 12 weeks of domestic violence classes, and an anger
management course. She was participating in an outpatient aftercare drug program
designed for individuals suffering from concurrent drug/mental illness disorders.
Further, she regularly visited Lincoln. The record supports Mother‟s argument that she
participated in rehabilitation programs and classes. But the record does not support a
conclusion that circumstances have changed.
       Mother previously participated in drug rehabilitation without success. In 2002,
she abandoned her daughters at a day care center to participate in a drug program, then
relapsed. She completed a drug program in 2004-2005, while in prison, then relapsed.
She has drug-related convictions in 1996, 2003, 2004, 2010 and 2011.



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       The most compelling measure of Mother‟s lack of success is the unavoidable fact
that Lincoln was born with meth in his bloodstream. Despite her awareness of the
dangers of drug abuse, Mother used meth during her pregnancy. She initially told DCFS
that she used meth two weeks before Lincoln‟s birth. Later, she told DCFS that she used
the drug only once since 2005, two days before Lincoln‟s birth.2 It is unclear how much
Mother really used, and it remains to be seen whether Lincoln will suffer impairment
arising from his prenatal exposure to Mother‟s selfish and heedless drug use. The
juvenile court could reasonably find that Mother‟s eight months of sobriety was minimal
progress for someone who describes herself as an addict and has abused drugs since the
age of 13, sometimes on a daily basis.
       Apart from exposing Lincoln to a dangerous drug before he was born, Mother did
not state that she is currently able to provide Lincoln with a stable, safe, permanent home.
Without a showing of parental ability to provide a safe home for the child, an 11th hour
attempt to extend the dependency proceeding is unavailing. (In re A.S., supra, 180
Cal.App.4th at p. 358.)
       Merely participating and completing drug counseling and testing, and regularly
visiting the child, is not prima facie evidence of changed circumstances. (In re
Anthony W., supra, 87 Cal.App.4th at p. 251.) Although Mother stresses that she became
involved in drug treatment “on her own initiative,” there is evidence in the record that
Mother is required by the terms of her criminal probation to complete a six-month drug
program. Mother‟s initiative looks less voluntary in view of the criminal court mandate.
The dependency court was not satisfied that the problems leading to the dependency




2      In this proceeding, Mother told the caseworker that she never used heroin;
however, during the 2002 dependency proceeding, she told two DCFS employees that she
used heroin. She also lied to Father when Lincoln was born, telling him that “the hospital
made a mistake and that she did not use drugs.” Though Mother initially claimed
sobriety for seven years between 2005 and 2012, she has drug arrests and convictions in
2011. Mother has little credibility.


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proceeding have been fully resolved. A showing of “changing” circumstances was not
enough. (In re Baby Boy L. (1994) 24 Cal.App.4th 596, 610.)
       b. Best Interests of the Child
       In determining a child‟s best interest, the court considers (1) the seriousness of the
reason for dependency jurisdiction; (2) the strength of the bonds between the child, the
parent and the caretakers; and (3) whether the problems leading to dependency may be
easily removed or ameliorated. (In re Kimberly F. (1997) 56 Cal.App.4th 519, 530-532.)
       Given Mother‟s history in the dependency courts resulting in the termination of
parental rights as to one child, and her permanent loss of custody of another child,
Mother had a long way to go to prove parental fitness. She argues that the current focus
on her history is “misplaced.” Considering that Mother knowingly exposed Lincoln to a
toxic drug just days before his birth last year—at the risk of destroying his life and
health—Mother‟s history of drug use is highly relevant to any discussion of her parental
fitness and the child‟s best interests.
       In this instance, Mother has not progressed to unmonitored visitation with Lincoln,
let alone demonstrated an ability to take custody. There is no evidence that Lincoln
showed separation anxiety when visits with Mother were over, which tends to discount
the strength of the maternal bond. By contrast, he is strongly bonded to his foster
parents, where he has spent his entire life. Lincoln was removed from Mother‟s custody
because she has long term substance abuse problems, and any periods of sobriety were
achieved only as a result of DCFS or criminal court intervention: “When that support
was no longer available, the mother quickly relapsed.” (In re William B. (2008) 163
Cal.App.4th 1220, 1228.)
       The gravity of the circumstances that led to this dependency proceeding cannot be
understated. For Mother, what occurred in the past was a prologue to the present
proceedings. After permanently losing custody to two children due to domestic violence
and drug abuse, Mother used drugs while pregnant with Lincoln.
       It is not feasible to ameliorate the conditions leading to the dependency
proceeding. Mother did not even admit that she committed a grievous wrong by

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exposing Lincoln to meth. On the eve of the permanent placement hearing, Lincoln‟s
interest in permanency and stability outweighs Mother‟s interest in reunification. (In re
Marilyn H. (1993) 5 Cal.4th 295, 309; In re Anthony W., supra, 87 Cal.App.4th at pp.
251-252.) The court properly denied Mother‟s petition for a modification.
2. Termination of Parental Rights
       At the selection and implementation hearing, the court must select adoption as the
permanent plan and terminate parental rights if it finds that the child is likely to be
adopted. (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1); In re Celine R. (2003) 31 Cal.4th 45, 49; In re Jamie R.
(2001) 90 Cal.App.4th 766, 773.) Adoption is the plan preferred by the Legislature.
(In re Derek W. (1999) 73 Cal.App.4th 823, 826; In re Ronell A. (1995) 44 Cal.App.4th
1352, 1368.)3 A parent may avoid termination of parental rights by showing why a
statutory exception applies, and that termination would be detrimental to the child. (In re
Celine R., supra, 31 Cal.4th at p. 53.) In re Derek W., supra, 73 Cal.App.4th at p. 826;
In re Melvin A. (2000) 82 Cal.App.4th 1243, 1252.)
       Mother argues that her parental rights should not be terminated because she has
“maintained regular visitation and contact” with Lincoln, and there is a “compelling
reason” to believe that ending the parental relationship would be detrimental to the child.
(§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B).) She bears the burden of proving that Lincoln would be
“greatly” harmed by termination of parental rights, and that she holds a “parental” role
with the child. (In re Brittany C. (1999) 76 Cal.App.4th 847, 853; In re Angel B. (2002)
97 Cal.App.4th 454, 466-468.)
       Mother must show both prongs of the exception: regular visitation and a benefit to
the child if the relationship were continued that outweighs the well-being the child would
gain in a new home with adoptive parents. As to the first prong, Mother‟s visits have
been consistent throughout. As to the second prong, the dependency court determined
that Lincoln‟s relationship with Mother is not so significant that he would be greatly



3      Mother does not dispute that Lincoln is likely to be adopted. At least two families
are eager to adopt him.

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harmed if it were severed. The court‟s determination is supported by substantial
evidence. (In re Autumn H. (1994) 27 Cal.App.4th 567, 576.)
       This dependency case began when Lincoln was born. He was detained at the
hospital because he and Mother tested positive for meth. As a result of Mother‟s history
of drug abuse and domestic violence, she was unable to have unmonitored, weekend or
extended visits, let alone custody of Lincoln. A showing that a child would be greatly
harmed by termination of parental rights is difficult to make when, as here, “the parents
have . . . [not] advanced beyond supervised visitation.” (In re Casey D., supra, 70
Cal.App.4th at p. 51.) A true parental relationship would not require a third party to
monitor parent-child visits.
       Mother argues that she has consistently visited Lincoln, and the visits were
positive and appropriate. Even frequent and loving contact between parent and child is
not sufficient to establish the requisite benefit to the child if Mother does not occupy a
parental role and is unable to take custody. (In re Teneka W. (1995) 37 Cal.App.4th 721,
728; In re Beatrice M. (1994) 29 Cal.App.4th 1411, 1418-1419; In re Andrea R. (1999)
75 Cal.App.4th 1093, 1108-1109.) While Lincoln is bonding with his prospective
adoptive parents, Mother has not progressed to the point where she can have unmonitored
or overnight visits, even if the visits are enjoyable. A relationship that is “pleasant” is not
enough to establish a benefit to the child because “it bears no resemblance to the sort of
consistent, daily nurturing that marks a parental relationship.” (In re Derek W., supra, 73
Cal.App.4th at p. 827.) “Interaction between natural parent and child will always confer
some incidental benefit to the child.” (In re Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at p. 575.)
       Apart from the incidental benefit of parent-child interaction, we must consider
“the many variables which affect a parent/child bond. The age of the child, the portion of
the child‟s life spent in the parent‟s custody, the „positive‟ or „negative‟ effect of
interaction between parent and child, and the child‟s particular needs are some of the
variables which logically affect a parent/child bond.” (In re Autumn H., supra, 27
Cal.App.4th at p. 576.) Lincoln has never lived with Mother: he went directly from the



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hospital to foster care. Lincoln only knows Mother from weekly visits. Mother does not
occupy a parental role for her child.
       Mother does not dispute that Lincoln is thriving in his placement, despite being
exposed in utero to meth and suffering from drug withdrawal symptoms for the first four
months of his life. Mother did not carry her burden of showing that Lincoln would be
greatly harmed by the termination of her parental rights, or that the benefits of continuing
their relationship outweigh the benefits of a stable, permanent home. The juvenile court
could reasonably find that Mother‟s relationship is not sufficiently beneficial. In a
guardianship or continued foster care, Lincoln would have an unstable placement.
Where, as here, a child is likely to be adopted, the court must choose “the most
permanent and secure alternative that can be afforded.” (In re Beatrice M., supra, 29
Cal.App.4th at p. 1419.)
                                        DISPOSITION
       The judgment is affirmed.
       NOT TO BE PUBLISHED IN THE OFFICIAL REPORTS.


                                                  BOREN, P.J.
We concur:


       ASHMANN-GERST, J.


       FERNS, J.*




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*      Judge of the Los Angeles Superior Court, assigned by the Chief Justice
 pursuant to article VI, section 6 of the California Constitution.


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