Filed 12/31/15 In re J.M. CA1/4
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              IN THE COURT OF APPEAL OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA

                                       FIRST APPELLATE DISTRICT

                                                 DIVISION FOUR


In re J.M. et al., Persons Coming Under the
Juvenile Court Law.


SOLANO COUNTY HEALTH &
SOCIAL SERVICES DEPARTMENT,
         Plaintiff and Respondent,                                   A145519
v.
                                                                     (Solano County
J.M.,                                                                Super. Ct. Nos. J42220, J42221)
         Defendant and Appellant.



         J.M. (Mother) appeals orders of the juvenile court denying her request for
additional reunification services with her two sons, J.M. and D.N. (collectively, Minors),
and terminating her parental rights to them. She contends that the court abused its
discretion in denying further services and that the children would benefit from continuing
their relationship with her. We shall affirm the orders.
                                               I. BACKGROUND
         The Solano County Health & Social Services Department (the Department) filed a
juvenile dependency petition on behalf of Minors in October 2013. At the time, J.M. was
five years old and D.N. was two years old. The petition alleged Mother had a history of
substance abuse, she was unable to care for Minors because of her substance abuse and
transient lifestyle, she had a history of unresolved mental health needs, she had been


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diagnosed with bipolar disorder, anxiety, and attention deficit disorder but had failed to
seek ongoing treatment, she used methamphetamines to treat her mental health issues,
and she was currently incarcerated. The petition also alleged that J.M.’s alleged father
(Father) had a history of substance abuse from which he had not recovered and that it
impaired his ability to care for J.M., that he had been arrested numerous times, and that
he was currently incarcerated and unable to care for J.M. According to the petition,
D.N.’s alleged father had abandoned D.N. at age two months and refused to care for
him.1
   A. Detention Report
        The Department filed a detention report in October 2013. A social worker had
met with Mother, who had described her drug use and mental health history. Mother had
been using methamphetamines “ ‘on and off’ ” since she was 13 years old, but she had
stopped in 2006 or 2007 when she became pregnant with her oldest child, a daughter.
She had an emotional breakdown in 2007 or 2008 because she was overwhelmed by the
demands of caring for her daughter, and was placed on a mental health hold at a hospital.
During her hospitalization, she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and prescribed
psychotropic medications; however, she stopped using her medications shortly after she
was released from the hospital. She was later diagnosed with attention deficit disorder
and prescribed medication. She took her medications for six months, but stopped
receiving mental health treatment because she lost her health insurance. Mother began
using methamphetamines again in 2010, reportedly because she was unable to maintain
stable housing, and continued to do so until she became pregnant with D.N. in 2011.
        Mother told the social worker she resumed caring for J.M. and her older daughter
after her pregnancy with D.N., who was born in September 2011, but that they became
homeless after she was asked to leave her residence. She entered a homeless shelter,
“Opportunity House,” but was asked to leave. She then left Minors in the care of their

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        Neither alleged father is a party to this appeal. Because of his greater
involvement in the facts relevant to this appeal, we shall refer to J.M.’s alleged father as
“Father.”

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former child care provider in April 2013.2 Mother began using methamphetamines again
in June 2013. She told the social worker she had been arrested for carjacking and
kidnapping in August 2013. Mother was incarcerated, awaiting trial.
         Mother acknowledged that she was inattentive to her children’s needs due to her
attention deficit disorder. She stayed in bed for long periods of time, left piles of dirty
laundry around her home, and had difficulty maintaining a clean house. She relied
heavily on an aunt and uncle to help care for the children. Mother was receiving mental
health treatment in jail and wanted to remain on her psychotropic medications.
         Father told the social worker he and his mother (Grandmother) had cared for J.M.
for nearly two years in the past and that Mother had been granted “split custody” of J.M
in 2012. He had only recently learned that Minors had been with their childcare provider,
L.H., since April.
         Grandmother reported that when J.M. and his older sister were in Mother’s care,
their clothes were constantly dirty. Grandmother took care of them five or six times a
week. When they went to Grandmother’s house, she would immediately bathe them.
The sister told Grandmother she could not bathe at Mother’s house because there were
too many flies in the bathtub.
         The children constantly begged for food when they visited Grandmother’s house.
J.M. had appeared malnourished when he was one year old. Mother gave him juice
instead of baby formula when he was younger, and he had 15 cavities at the age of three
years.
         Grandmother told the social worker that in 2008, Mother’s home was dirty: there
were piles of dirty clothes, trash, and dirty diapers in the children’s living quarters, the
house smelled of spoiled milk and urine, the kitchen countertops were piled with dirty
dishes, the stove was covered in grease and spilled food, and there was no food in the
refrigerator, freezer, or cabinets.

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        She also arranged for her older daughter to stay with the daughter’s paternal
grandmother. The older daughter’s grandmother became her legal guardian, and the
daughter is not involved in this dependency case.

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        Grandmother told the social worker that Mother had been unable to maintain
stable housing. Mother had left J.M. in Father’s care in 2010, and was absent from his
life for nearly two years. She moved in with her aunt when she was pregnant with D.N.
and brought J.M. and his older sister to live with her. She was asked to leave her aunt’s
residence in April 2013, went to Opportunity House, and was asked to leave within the
first week. She then left Minors in the care of their childcare provider, L.H.
Grandmother and her husband (Grandfather) brought J.M. to live with them in September
2013.
        Grandmother also explained that Father struggled with drug addiction and would
go on extended “ ‘drug binges,’ ” disappearing for months.
        The childcare provider, L.H., told the social worker she had cared for Minors for
about five months. Mother was homeless and unable to care for them. During this time,
Mother rarely followed up to see how the children were doing, and L.H. was unable to
contact her. L.H. reported that when Minors were in Mother’s care, their clothing and
skin were dirty and they had bad body odor. J.M. appeared thin and malnourished, and
Mother had left D.N. on the front porch of L.H.’s home because he would not stop
crying.
        Mother was arrested for carjacking and robbery in late August 2013. According to
the police report, she and a man approached a woman who was in her car with her
daughter and asked to use her phone. When the victim told them she did not have a
phone, Mother lifted her shirt and showed her a knife on a sheath on her belt. Mother
told the victim not to scream and threatened to take her child and car keys. The second
suspect held a metal pry tool in his hand and had a knife in a sheath on his belt. The
victim was able to escape when another vehicle pulled up.
        Father had recently been arrested for possessing and transporting controlled
substances. D.N.’s father was not involved in the child’s life and did not want
reunification services.
        The juvenile court ordered Minors detained.



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   B. Jurisdiction
          At the time of the November 2013 jurisdiction report, J.M was placed with
Grandmother, and D.N. was placed with his former child care providers, L.H. and D.D.
Father had recently been sentenced to prison for possession of a controlled substance.
          The social worker interviewed J.M., who told her he felt safe with Grandmother
and with the child care provider, L.H., and that he sometimes felt safe with Mother.
          A February 2014 addendum report noted that Mother expected to be released from
jail either later that month or in April 2014. She said that due to medical problems, she
had not been able to participate in any services.
          The juvenile court sustained the allegations of the petition, took jurisdiction of
Minors, and ordered reunification services for Father and Mother, but not for D.N.’s
father.
   C. Six-Month Status Review
          D.N.’s caregivers, L.H. and D.D., filed a request to be appointed D.N.’s de facto
parents in July 2014. They stated that D.N., then two years old, had lived with them for
more than half his life, that he had taken to calling them “[M]ommy” and “[D]addy”
without encouragement, and that he believed them to be his parents. L.H. and D.D. were
willing to adopt D.N.
          Grandmother and Grandfather asked to be appointed J.M.’s de facto parents. In
their request, they noted that he had lived with them “the better part of his life.” They
were willing to adopt him.
          The Department prepared a report for the August 2014 six-month review hearing.
Mother had been released from custody and was living in a residential treatment center.
She had made progress in the program, but had repeatedly violated the program’s rules
and engaged in “attempted secret relationships.” She performed some work through the
residential program to gain job skills. She had begun to seek assistance in obtaining
permanent housing. She was participating regularly in an outpatient substance abuse
treatment program and was making good progress. She was participating in mental
health services and was taking medications. At the time of the report, Mother had one


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unsupervised afternoon visit and one overnight visit with Minors each week, and she had
been visiting them consistently.
       Father remained imprisoned. J.M. remained with his paternal grandparents and
D.N. with L.H. and D.D. Minors had regular visitation with each other.
       At the six-month review hearing, the juvenile court found Mother had made
adequate progress toward alleviating or mitigating the causes necessitating placement,
Father had made minimal progress, and D.N.’s father had made none. The court
continued Minors in out-of-home placement and continued reunification services. At a
later hearing, the court granted the requests of Grandmother and Grandfather to be named
J.M.’s de facto parents and of L.H. and D.D. to become D.N.’s de facto parents.
   D. Twelve-Month Review
       The 12-month status review was scheduled for December 2014. The
Department’s status review report stated that Mother had been “transient and without
stable housing” during the reporting period. She left the residential treatment program on
August 6, 2014, apparently blaming personnel at the program for telling the Department
that she had broken rules and was not ready to have Minors returned to her. For the next
two weeks, the Department did not know Mother’s whereabouts, Mother did not arrange
visitation with Minors, and she did not attend her outpatient substance abuse treatment
program. On August 21, 2014, she informed the Department that she was living with a
friend in Fairfield, but she did not provide contact information or an address.
       On October 31, 2014, Mother was detained by the Fairfield Police Department for
public intoxication. Her probation officer told a social worker Mother had violated her
probation by being terminated from her substance abuse treatment program, having a
positive drug test for alcohol in October 2014, and being arrested for public intoxication.
She was taken into custody for the probation violation on December 1, 2014.
       The report explained that Mother had participated well in her substance abuse
treatment from April until early August 2014 but that after she left the residential center,
her attendance at the outpatient substance abuse program began to decline and she had
“periods of relapses.” She was placed on an attendance contract at the outpatient


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program in September 2014; she made some improvements, but failed to comply with her
attendance contract and was terminated from the program on October 31, 2014. Mother
entered a detoxification center in early November 2014, and entered a residential
substance abuse treatment program later that month.
       Mother was not employed, and as of the time the report was written in December
2014, she had moved into a substance abuse residential treatment program and was on the
waiting list for a housing voucher.
       Mother’s visitation with Minors had reverted to supervised visitation because of
her homelessness and substance abuse relapse. Her interactions with Minors were
consistently positive. She played games with them, drew with them, talked with them,
brought snacks and beverages, and ate with them. She set limits and praised good
behavior. Minors seemed happy during the visits and responded well to her directions.
Mother acknowledged she was not ready to have Minors returned to her care.
       J.M. was six years old, and was meeting developmental milestones and performing
satisfactorily in school. He was seeing a therapist, who stated that he needed “structure,
stability, and predictability.” He appeared stable and comfortable in his grandparents’
house and had a positive attachment to them. D.N., three years old, was also meeting
developmental milestones. His caregiver reported that he needed “constant reassurance
of where he belongs and who he is,” asking questions such as “ ‘are you mine?’ ”, “ ‘do
you love me?’ ”, and “ ‘is this my house?’ ” He had lived with L.H. and D.D. for nearly
two years and was attached to them. He often showed physical affection for D.D. and
told him, “ ‘I love you [D]addy.’ ”
       The Department concluded that both Mother’s and Father’s progress had been
minimal and that there was no substantial probability that an extension of services to 18
months would result in Minors reunifying with either parent. The Department therefore
recommended that reunification services be terminated and hearing pursuant to Welfare
and Institutions Code3 section 366.26 be set.


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           All statutory references are to the Welfare and Institutions Code.

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       A contested hearing took place on January 27, 2015. The social worker assigned
to the case testified that Mother had been living in the residential drug treatment program
since November 20, 2014 and appeared to be sober. The social worker noted, however,
that Mother had a pattern of not maintaining her sobriety when out of a structured setting.
Mother was taking her medications and had attended some visits with Minors. However,
there had been lapses in the visitation schedule when her whereabouts were unknown for
two weeks in August, when she was in detoxification for two weeks in November, and
when she was incarcerated for a few days in December 2014. Mother’s counselor at the
residential treatment program testified that Mother was complying with all the program’s
guidelines and rules and attending all her courses and counseling sessions. Her drug tests
had been negative.
       On January 28, 2015, the juvenile court terminated reunification services and set
the case for a section 366.26 selection and implementation hearing. In doing so, the court
acknowledged that Mother had made progress in her treatment program, but concluded it
could not find there was a substantial probability Minors could be returned to her by
18 months from the time they were removed.
   E. Section 366.26 Hearing and Request for Modification of Order
       1. Section 366.26 Report
       The Department’s May 2015 report for the section 366.26 hearing explained that
Mother had told a social worker she had graduated from the 90-day residential treatment
program on March 18. After she was released, she stayed at a homeless shelter, then with
her mother for a couple of weeks before entering the “City Church” program, where she
initially reported she would be able to live for up to a year. In early May, however, she
told the social worker she had left City Church because the staff was “ ‘unprofessional’ ”
and she was “yelled at and disrespected” there. She was currently living in Sacramento
with the father of her daughter. Staff at the City Church program told the social worker
Mother had left of her own accord because her daughter’s father had offered her a room
free of charge. Mother took another client of the program with her when she left, but the
other client returned to City Church, reporting that Mother’s new residence was a


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“ ‘crank house’; a house where people use drugs.” Mother wanted Minors returned to her
care and opposed a plan of adoption.
      Father, who had been released from prison, was reported to be homeless, and the
social worker’s efforts to contact him had been unsuccessful. Grandmother reported that
Father had come to accept the plan of adoption.4
      J.M was healthy, was developing normally, was doing well in school, and was
well cared for at his grandparents’ home. He was participating in weekly therapy. He
seemed “stable, comfortable, and adjusted” with his grandparents and was attached to
them. They wanted to adopt him and provide him with a permanent home. They had
been referred for an adoption home study. When asked where and with whom he would
like to live, J.M. responded by saying, “Here, with my Pop [Grandfather] and Grandma.”
Grandmother was willing to have J.M. continue his contact with his maternal
grandmother and siblings after adoption, and was open to J.M. having supervised contact
with Mother and Father.
      D.N. was also healthy and developing normally and was well cared for by his
caregivers, L.H. and D.D. He was participating in weekly mental health services, but he
did not appear to need to continue with the therapy. He referred to L.H. and D.D. as his
“[M]om” and “[D]ad.” He showed physical affection by hugging and kissing them and
told them he loved them. L.H. and D.D. wanted to adopt D.N., and the Department had
made a referral for an adoption home study. L.H. and D.D. supported D.N. remaining in
monthly contact with his maternal grandmother and maternal half-siblings, and were also
open to contact between D.N. and Mother by letter or telephone.
      Since reunification services were terminated, Mother had been offered fewer visits
with Minors. She was offered two visits per month in February and March 2015, but
missed one of the March visits. She was offered one visit per month in April and May
2015. She cancelled her April visit because her ride from Sacramento “ ‘fell through.’ ”
She behaved appropriately during visits and tried to engage with the children.

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        D.N.’s father continued to have no involvement with D.N. and had told several
social workers he could not raise D.N. and wanted to sign over his parental rights.

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          J.M. interacted and engaged with Mother during visits. Grandmother reported that
J.M. continued to have “anger issues,” which became worse after his visits with Mother.
After each visit, he would become more angry and upset, kick the door, and stomp on the
floor. Mother used to call J.M. every week, but had not called since the last court date in
January 2015. The social worker asked J.M about his visits with Mother, and he told her
he did not like visiting her because she “ ‘feeds us bad food,’ ” such as Lunchables with
candy. He initially told the social worker he did not like anything about the visits, but
eventually said he liked playing and that he liked playing on Mother’s phone during
visits.
          D.N. did not appear to have much of a bond with Mother and took some time to
warm up to her. During the visits, D.N. talked about his “Daddy,” D.D., and asked for
his “Mommy [L.],” L.H. L.H. and D.D. told the social worker that D.N. did not ask for
Mother and did not identify her as his mother. They reported that during one of the
visits, when Mother told D.N., “Mommy missed you,” D.N. replied that he already had a
Mommy, referring to L.H. When D.D. took D.N. to visits with Mother, D.N. would ask
him why he was going to the visits.
          2. Section 388 Petition and Hearing
          Mother’s counsel filed petitions pursuant to section 388 to change the court’s
order terminating reunification services on the grounds she had completed her residential
program in mid-March, was maintaining her sobriety by attending support meetings, was
taking her medications, was seeking employment, had enrolled in school, and had moved
in with her mother. The court considered the section 388 petition in conjunction with the
contested section 366.26 hearing on June 16, 2015.
          The court considered the section 388 petition first. Mother testified that she was
in an inpatient treatment program when reunification services were terminated in January
2015 and that she graduated from the program on March 18, 2015. She spent a few days
in a shelter, then entered the City Church program. She remained at City Church for two
weeks, but left because she felt the staff was unprofessional and disrespectful. She then
went to Sacramento to live with her daughter’s father, and was in Sacramento for about


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two months. She denied that the house was a “crank house,” and also denied knowing
that other people there used drugs. She originally testified that she left the house in
Sacramento because her daughter’s father returned to the home after failing to complete a
residential program and she believed he compromised her sobriety. On cross-
examination, she acknowledged that she had recently called her mother and told her she
had been kicked out of his house. Mother spent two nights in her car before she could
contact her mother to ask for a place to live; she then moved in with her mother, with
whom she was living at the time of the hearing.
       While at the inpatient program, Mother had developed a relapse prevention plan,
and she had been in contact with her sponsor every day since graduating. Mother
testified that she had been sober since November 5, 2014. She tried to attend Alcoholics
Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous meetings at least once a day. However, as of the
date of the June 16 hearing, she had attended only three meetings in June.
       Mother testified she had not visited with Minors since mid-April. Her visits had
decreased after reunification services were terminated, and she had noticed that the boys
had become more distant with her during the visits since that time. She testified that J.M.
would greet her by hugging her and saying, “Hi, Mom,” and that D.N. would call her
“Mama [J.].” Minors used to have trouble separating from her at the end of visits, but
they no longer did.
       Minors had last been in Mother’s custody in March 2013. Mother acknowledged
that D.N. had lived half his life with L.H., and said she would not want him to make a
rapid transition back into Mother’s care. There had also been an earlier period that J.M.
lived away from Mother for about a year, when he was two years old. Mother testified
that J.M. had asked her several times when he could come and live with her.
       Mother testified she was looking for work and had re-enrolled in community
college. She was taking her psychiatric medications. She was making efforts to enroll in
an after-care substance abuse program.
       A social worker testified that Mother was still in a “very unstable situation” and
that there was no record of her completing any drug testing since she graduated from the


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residential program on March 18. She testified that the social worker who supervised
Mother’s visits with Minors had indicated J.M. had never expressed the wish to live with
Mother. She agreed, however, that Mother showed affection to Minors during their visits
and that J.M. reciprocated her affection, while D.N. was slower to warm up to her. J.M.
considered his grandparents’ house his home. D.N. considered L.H. and D.D. his
parents. The social worker believed it would be detrimental to delay J.M.’s permanent
placement with his grandparents or to remove D.N. from his current home.
       The juvenile court denied Mother’s petition to reinstate reunification services.
The court commended Mother for completing her residential program and setting
appropriate goals for herself. However, the court noted, Mother had not visited Minors
regularly, had not achieved a stable living situation or employment, had not attended an
after-care substance abuse program, and had not given any proof that she had complied
with drug testing.
       3. Section 366.26 Hearing
       The section 366.26 selection and implementation hearing immediately ensued.
Mother testified that she was concerned that if Minors were adopted, their adoptive
parents would not allow her to maintain contact with them. She did not want Minors to
be adopted, and she wanted the opportunity to regain custody of them at a later date.
       The juvenile court found that Minors were likely to be adopted, that Mother had
not shown she had had regular and consistent visitation with Minors over the course of
the dependency, and that she had not shown that the benefit of maintaining the parent-
child relationship outweighed the benefits of adoption. The court therefore terminated
the parental rights of Mother, Father, and D.N.’s father, and ordered a plan of adoption.
                                    II. DISCUSSION
   A. Denial of Section 388 Petition
       Mother contends the trial court abused its discretion in denying her section 388
petition to reinstate reunification services. She points out that she had successfully
completed the residential substance abuse treatment program and had a relapse
prevention plan, she was attending support meetings and taking her medications, she was


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seeking employment and had re-enrolled in college, she was living with her mother, and
she was making plans to attend an after-care substance abuse program. These efforts, she
argues, show changed circumstances, and she contends the juvenile court therefore
abused its discretion in refusing her request for further services.
       “A dependency court order may be changed or modified under Welfare and
Institutions Code section 388 if a petitioning parent establishes one of the statutory
grounds, changed circumstance or new evidence, for the modification, and also proves
the proposed change would promote the best interests of the child. [Citations.] The
parent requesting the change of order has the burden of establishing that the change is
justified. [Citation.]” (In re Michael B. (1992) 8 Cal.App.4th 1698, 1703.)
       In determining whether the party has made the requisite showing, the court
considers “the seriousness of the reason for the dependency and the reason the problem
was not overcome; the relative strength of the parent-child and child-caretaker bonds and
the length of time the child has been in the system; and the nature of the change in
circumstances, the ease by which the change could be achieved, and the reason the
change was not made sooner.” (In re Aaliyah R. (2006) 136 Cal.App.4th 437, 446–447.)
After termination of services, “the focus shifts from the parent’s custodial interest to the
child’s need for permanency and stability.” (In re Amber M. (2002) 103 Cal.App.4th
681, 685; accord In re Stephanie M. (1994) 7 Cal.4th 295, 317.) The grant or denial of
the petition rests in the juvenile court’s sound discretion, and its decision will not be
disturbed on appeal absent a clear abuse of that discretion, that is, a showing that the
court’s determination was arbitrary, capricious, or patently absurd. (In re Shirley K.
(2006) 140 Cal.App.4th 65, 71.)
       Applying these standards, we must uphold the juvenile court’s order. Mother had
a long pattern of drug abuse and instability, and despite her commendable recent efforts,
she had not yet shown that she could maintain sobriety and a stable living arrangement
outside the structured setting of a residential program. Meanwhile, Minors had been out
of her custody for more than two years at the time of the hearing, and indeed, they had
each lived apart from her for approximately half of their young lives. Although Mother


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behaved appropriately and affectionately during visits and J.M. in particular showed
affection in return, the evidence shows they looked to their caregivers, rather than to her,
to fill the role of a parent and meet their needs. Minors were bonded to their respective
caretakers and they considered their caretakers’ houses their homes. Moreover, Minors’
respective caretakers were committed to adopting them and giving each a permanent
home, and there was evidence that it would be detrimental to Minors to deprive them of
that stability. The juvenile court did not abuse its discretion in denying Mother’s
section 388 petition.
   B. Termination of Parental Rights
       Mother contends the juvenile court erred in not applying the section 366.26,
subdivision (c)(1)(B)(i), exception to termination of parental rights because she and
Minors share a loving bond and Minors would benefit from continuing a parent-child
relationship with her.
       Where reunification services have failed and a hearing pursuant to section 366.26
is held, the court must determine whether the child is likely to be adopted; if so, with
limited exceptions, the court must terminate parental rights and order the child placed for
adoption.5 (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1).) Under section 366.26, subdivision (c)(1), the denial
of reunification services “shall constitute a sufficient basis for termination of parental
rights” unless “(B) [t]he court finds a compelling reason for determining that termination
would be detrimental to the child due to one or more of the following circumstances:
[¶] (i) The parents have maintained regular visitation and contact with the child and the
child would benefit from continuing the relationship. . . .” The parents have the burden
of proving the applicability of the beneficial relationship exception. (In re Autumn H.
(1994) 27 Cal.App.4th 567, 574 (Autumn H.).)
       The Autumn H. court recognized that “[i]nteraction between natural parent and
child will always confer some incidental benefit to the child.” (Autumn H., supra,
27 Cal.App.4th at p. 575.) “To meet the burden of proof, the parent must show more than

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         Mother does not challenge the juvenile court’s finding that Minors are adoptable,
and the record clearly shows that they are likely to be adopted.

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frequent and loving contact, an emotional bond with the child, or pleasant visits.” (In re
Dakota H. (2005) 132 Cal.App.4th 212, 229.) The beneficial relationship exception
applies only when the relationship with the natural parent “promotes the well-being of the
child to such a degree as to outweigh the well-being the child would gain in a permanent
home with new, adoptive parents. In other words, the court balances the strength and
quality of the natural parent/child relationship in a tenuous placement against the security
and sense of belonging a new family would confer.” (Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th
at p. 575.) Only if “severing the natural parent/child relationship would deprive the child
of a substantial, positive emotional attachment such that the child would be greatly
harmed [is] the preference for adoption . . . overcome [so that] the natural parent’s rights
are not terminated.” (Ibid.) The existence of this relationship is determined by “[t]he age
of the child, the portion of the child’s life spent in the parent’s custody, the ‘positive’ or
‘negative’ effect of interaction between parent and child, and the child’s particular
needs.” (Id. at p. 576.)
       There is some conflict in the courts of appeal as to the proper standard of review
of a juvenile court’s finding on whether one of the exceptions to adoption applies. (See
Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at pp. 575–577 [substantial evidence standard applies
to finding on the applicability of beneficial relationship exception]; In re Jasmine D.
(2000) 78 Cal.App.4th 1339, 1351 [applying abuse of discretion but recognizing
difference in standards not significant]; In re Bailey J. (2010) 189 Cal.App.4th 1308,
1314–1315 [applying combination of both standards].) We agree with Jasmine D. that
the practical differences between the two standards in evaluating the beneficial
relationship exception are not significant. (Jasmine D., supra, 78 Cal.App.4th at
p. 1351.) On the record before us, we would affirm the court’s finding under either
standard.
       The record fully supports the juvenile court’s determination that the beneficial
relationship exception did not apply. At the time of the selection and implementation
hearing, J.M. was six years old and D.N. was three years old, and both had lived away
from Mother for approximately half their lives. Mother had visited Minors fairly


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regularly during most of the dependency and behaved appropriately and affectionately,
but she had not seen them for two months or more at the time of the section 366.26
hearing. There is no indication Minors turned to Mother to meet their physical or
emotional needs. D.N. asked why he was going to visits, he was slow to warm up to
Mother at the visits, he referred to his caregivers as “Daddy” and “Mommy [L.],” and he
told Mother he already had a Mommy, L.H. Although J.M. showed more affection for
Mother, there is also evidence that he showed increased problems with anger after seeing
Mother. J.M. told a social worker he did not like visiting Mother, although he eventually
said he liked playing at the visits.
       Against the limited benefit from these visits, the juvenile court properly weighed
the benefit Minors would receive from adoption. The children’s respective caregivers
were committed to adopting them and giving each a permanent home. J.M. had
expressed the wish to continue living with his “Pop” and “Grandma,” and he considered
their house his home. His therapist had opined that he needed “structure, stability, and
predictability.” D.N. had lived with L.H. and D.D. since he was a year and a half old,
viewed them as his mother and father, and was happy in their care. This record fully
supports the juvenile court’s conclusion that the relationship between Minors and Mother
did not constitute a “compelling reason” to determine that termination of parental rights
would be detrimental to Minors. (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(i).)
                                       III. DISPOSITION
       The orders appealed from are affirmed.




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                                 Rivera, J.


We concur:


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Reardon, Acting P.J.


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Streeter, J.




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