
271 S.E.2d 393 (1980)
Carolyn LEDFORD
v.
Gilmer LEDFORD.
No. 7930DC1148.
Court of Appeals of North Carolina.
October 21, 1980.
*395 Downs & Henning by James U. Downs, Franklin, for plaintiff-appellant.
Louis Wilson, Franklin, for defendant-appellee.
CLARK, Judge.
The challenged ruling of the trial court in granting summary judgment for the defendant-husband should be affirmed on appeal only if the defendant in his supporting affidavit established as a matter of law that he and plaintiff-wife did not live *396 separate and apart for one year as required by G.S. 50-6. Stated another way, the test is whether the defendant presented materials which would require a directed verdict in his favor if presented at the trial. W. Shuford, N.C. Civil Practice and Procedure § 56-7 (1975).
The facts as presented to the court in defendant's affidavit on the one hand and as presented in plaintiff's affidavit and deposition on the other hand are conflicting. Only if these questions of fact are immaterial would summary judgment be appropriate, because summary judgment is warranted only where no genuine issue of material fact exists. Page v. Sloan, 281 N.C. 697, 190 S.E.2d 189 (1972); Fitzgerald v. Wolf, 40 N.C.App. 197, 252 S.E.2d 523 (1979); G.S. 1A-1, Rule 56. In making this determination, the Court must view the evidence in the light most favorable to the non-movant. Brice v. Moore, 30 N.C.App. 365, 226 S.E.2d 882 (1976).
G.S. 50-6 allows the granting of a divorce on the basis of one year's separation. To grant defendant's motion, the trial judge must have concluded that the parties did not as a matter of law live separate and apart as the statute contemplates. Our case law delineates two circumstances under which the law will hold spouses to have failed to satisfy the requirements of a valid separation: first, sexual activity between the parties, Murphy v. Murphy, 295 N.C. 390, 245 S.E.2d 693 (1978); and, second, such association between the parties as to induce others to regard them as living together, In re Estate of Adamee, 291 N.C. 386, 230 S.E.2d 541 (1976).
Though both Murphy and Adamee, supra, deal with the validity of a separation agreement and not with the tolling of the period of separation required in G.S. 50-6, we believe that the following language in the Adamee opinion forestalls any doubt that the cases should apply as well to the "live separate and apart" words in G.S. 50-6:
"The same public policy which will not permit spouses to continue to live together in the same home-holding themselves out to the public as husband and wife-to sue each other for an absolute divorce on the ground of separation or to base the period of separation required for a divorce on any time they live together, will also nullify a separation agreement if the parties resume marital cohabitation. Whether used in a separation agreement or a divorce statute, the words `live separate and apart' have the same meaning. The cessation of cohabitation which provides grounds for divorce and the resumption of cohabitation which will abrogate a separation agreement are defined in the same terms."
291 N.C. at 391, 230 S.E.2d at 545 (dictum).
The first circumstance which would support the judge's granting of summary judgment in this case would be undisputed evidence of sexual activity between the parties. Murphy v. Murphy, 295 N.C. 390, 245 S.E.2d 693 (1978). See Note, Separation Agreements: Effect of Resumed Marital Relations, 1 Campbell L.Rev. 131 (1979) [hereinafter Separation Agreements]; Survey, Developments in North Carolina Law, 1978, 57 N.C.L.Rev. 827, 1095-98 (1979); Note, Isolated Acts of Sexual Intercourse Void Separation Agreements, 16 Wake Forest L.Rev. 137 (1980) [hereinafter Isolated Acts]. In Murphy, supra, Justice Sharp wrote for the Court that "severance of marital relations by a separation agreement and continued sexual intercourse between the parties are essentially antagonistic and irreconcilable notions." Murphy v. Murphy, 295 N.C. at 397, 245 S.E.2d at 698. In light of the foregoing quote from Adamee, it is to be expected that the trial judge would understand the Murphy rationale to suggest that acts of sexual intercourse would not only void a separation agreement but would also toll the statutory period for divorce. See Note, Separation Agreements, 1 Campbell L.Rev. at 139-40; Note, Isolated Acts, 16 Wake Forest L.Rev. at 149. The testimony of the plaintiff, however, was that no intercourse occurred between her and her husband during the period of separation. A jury might well believe her testimony. Indeed, the judge was required to believe this testimony for the purpose of ruling on the *397 motion for summary judgment. Brice v. Moore, supra. Absent sexual intercourse, the Murphy rationale has no applicability to this case and reliance upon sexual intercourse between the parties as grounds for summary judgment, in light of plaintiff's evidence to the contrary, would be error by the trial judge.
The second circumstance which would support the granting of the summary judgment would be an association between the parties "of such character as to induce others who observe them to regard them as living together in the ordinary acceptation of that descriptive phrase." In re Estate of Adamee, supra; Dudley v. Dudley, 225 N.C. 83, 33 S.E.2d 489 (1945). The Adamee court, per Justice Sharp, stated:
"We hold that when separated spouses who have executed a separation agreement resume living together in the home which they occupied before the separation, they hold themselves out as man and wife `in the ordinary acceptation of the descriptive phrase.'"
Adamee, 291 N.C. at 392, 230 S.E.2d at 546. Under this second approach the summary judgment would be warranted if all the evidence considered in the light most favorable to plaintiff established as a matter of law that sometime after the separation of the parties they resumed living together or in some manner "held themselves out as husband and wife living together." Adamee, supra; Dudley v. Dudley, supra.
The affidavit and deposition of the plaintiff tend to show that over the course of more than a year plaintiff:
(1) Drove around town with defendant on a few occasions;
(2) Drove to Georgia with defendant on two occasions;
(3) Approximately twice a month, during half of this period (May to November 1978), visited defendant at their former marital home and while at the house cleaned up and cooked;
(4) Ate at restaurants with defendant on three occasions;
(5) Set up a Christmas tree in the former marital home during December 1978;
(6) On one occasion attended the Prentiss Baptist Church with defendant;
(7) While leaving the church on that occasion failed to protest when defendant referred to her as his wife;
(8) Slept with defendant on the night of 29 December 1977, although they did not engage in sexual activity.
The trial judge apparently viewed these facts as establishing as a matter of law that the parties had not lived "separate and apart" in that they held themselves out to the public as husband and wife.
Considering the first seven of the above listed activities, we see nothing that would warrant finding as a matter of law that the parties held themselves out as man and wife. The acts listed appear to be isolated or occasional and not of a character to be inconsistent with the parties' status as separated spouses. It is true that Murphy held sexual intercourse between the parties to be inconsistent with the notion of separation "whether the resumption of sexual relations be `casual', `isolated', or otherwise," Murphy v. Murphy, 295 N.C. at 397, 245 S.E.2d at 698; but we believe that casual and isolated social acts together must be viewed differently. As pointed out in Murphy, to allow sexual activity outside the cloak of marriage would be to "`sanction and approve, for all practical purposes, illicit intercourse and promiscuous assignation.'" Id., quoting State v. Gossett, 203 N.C. 641, 644, 166 S.E. 754, 755 (1932). There is nothing illicit, however, about casual social intercourse between separated spouses. Indeed, in a state which "recognize[s] and adhere[s] ... to a policy which within reason favor[s] maintenance of ... marriage[s]," Gardner v. Gardner, 294 N.C. 172, 180, 240 S.E.2d 399, 405 (1978), it would appear beneficial to encourage the sorts of social contact which are necessary for spouses to reconcile their differences and effect a meaningful reconciliation. In light of the nature of these activities and their relative infrequency over an extended period of time, we see no way they could reasonably induce others to regard the parties as living together. We note in contrast *398 that cases denying divorce or voiding separation agreements have uniformly required much more substantial activity to find a holding out as living together. See In re Estate of Adamee, supra, (wife moved back into marital domicile and lived with husband for eight months); Dudley v. Dudley, supra, (evidence showed spouses had slept in the same room for two and one-half to three years and in adjoining rooms in the same house for the remainder of the alleged five years' separation); Young v. Young, 225 N.C. 340, 34 S.E.2d 154 (1945) (although husband was in the Navy, the parties stayed together whenever the husband was on leave or stationed near the marital home). We hold, in accord with our earlier holding in the case of Tuttle v. Tuttle, 36 N.C.App. 635, 244 S.E.2d 447 (1978), that, "interruption of the statutory period should not be found ... from the mere fact of social contact between the parties." Id. at 636-37, 244 S.E.2d at 448.
The eighth, and only remaining, circumstance upon which the trial judge might have based his ruling for defendant on the summary judgment motion was the incident on 29 December 1977 when plaintiff and defendant spent the night together in their former marital home. Plaintiff, however, filed a timely motion to amend her complaint for the purpose of eliminating this incident and having the period of separation begin on 1 January 1978. Had this motion been granted, the night the parties spent together would have been outside the period of separation and not subject to consideration on the summary judgment motion. Plaintiff assigns as error the trial judge's denial of her motion to amend her complaint.
Rule 15(a), N.C. Rules Civ.Proc. mandates that after expiration of the time for amendment as of right, "a party may amend his pleading only by leave of court ... and leave shall be freely given when justice so requires." This language in our rule is identical to that of its federal counterpart, Fed.R.Civ.Proc. 15(a). See W. Shuford, N.C. Civil Practice and Procedure § 15-1 (1975). With regard to the Federal Rule, the United States Supreme Court has stated:
"Rule 15(a) declares that leave to amend `shall be freely given when justice so requires'; this mandate is to be heeded. See generally, 3 Moore, Federal Practice (2d ed 1948), ¶¶ 15.08, 15.10. If the underlying facts or circumstances relied upon by plaintiff may be a proper subject of relief, he ought to be afforded an opportunity to test his claim on the merits. In the absence of any apparent or declared reason-such as undue delay, bad faith or dilatory motive on the part of the movant, repeated failure to cure deficiencies by amendments previously allowed, undue prejudice to the opposing party by virtue of allowance of the amendment, futility of amendment, etc. the leave sought should, as the rules require, be `freely given.' Of course, the grant or denial of an opportunity to amend is within the discretion of the District Court, but outright refusal to grant the leave without any justifying reason appearing for the denial is not an exercise of discretion; it is merely abuse of that discretion and inconsistent with the spirit of the Federal Rules."
Foman v. Davis, 371 U.S. 178, 181-182, 83 S.Ct. 227, 229-230, 9 L.Ed.2d 222, 226 (1962); see Public Relations, Inc. v. Enterprises, Inc., 36 N.C.App. 673, 245 S.E.2d 782 (1978); Gladstein v. South Square Association, 39 N.C.App. 171, 249 S.E.2d 827 (1978). Just as the language in the Federal and North Carolina Rules are identical on this point, so are the policies behind the rules the same, i. e., "to insure, so far as is just to the opposing party, that every case be decided on its merits." Gladstein, supra, at 178, 249 S.E.2d at 831.
In the case sub judice the trial court did not set out a justifying reason for denying plaintiff's motion to amend and no such reason appears in the record on appeal. The United States Supreme Court has held that the trial judge abuses his discretion when he refuses to allow an amendment unless a justifying reason is shown. Foman v. Davis, supra. Nor does the record reveal any attempt on the part of the defendant to *399 show that he would be prejudiced by the amendment. The burden is on the objecting party to show that he would be prejudiced thereby. Vernon v. Crist, 291 N.C. 646, 231 S.E.2d 591 (1977) (dictum); Public Relations, Inc. v. Enterprises, Inc., 36 N.C. App. 673, 245 S.E.2d 782 (1978). It must be concluded that the ruling of the trial court in denying the motion to amend is based on a misapprehension of the law, that the circumstances (listed 1-7 above) were sufficient as a matter of law to warrant summary judgment for defendant rendering the amendment futile. We conclude that the denial of the motion to amend without a justifying reason and no showing of prejudice to defendant, and apparently based on a misapprehension of the law, was an abuse of discretion and reversible error.
It should not be inferred from this ruling on the amendment question that summary judgment for defendant would have been justified solely on the admission by plaintiff that she spent the night with the defendant in the marital home on 29 December 1977. Our ruling on the amendment issue obviates the need for considering and ruling on that question.
The summary judgment for defendant and the order denying plaintiff's motion to amend are vacated and this cause is remanded for proceedings consistent with this opinion.
Vacated and Remanded.
MORRIS, C. J., and HARRY C. MARTIN, J., concur.
