                                              2013 IL App (5th) 130349
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                                          APPELLATE COURT OF ILLINOIS
                             FIFTH DISTRICT
________________________________________________________________________
In re MARRIAGE OF                      )    Appeal from the
                                       )    Circuit Court of
KATHERINE A. SMITH,                    )    Madison County.
                                       )
      Petitioner-Appellant,            )
                                       )
and                                    )    No. 10-D-1340
                                       )
CHASE W. SMITH,                        )    Honorable
                                       )    Ben L. Beyers II,
      Respondent-Appellee.             )    Judge, presiding.
________________________________________________________________________

            JUSTICE CATES delivered the judgment of the court, with opinion.
            Presiding Justice Spomer and Justice Stewart concurred in the judgment and
            opinion.

                                                     OPINION

¶1          Petitioner, Katherine A. Smith (Mother), appeals the judgment entered by the circuit
court of Madison County in connection with a custody and removal dispute arising from the
dissolution of her marriage to respondent, Chase W. Smith (Father). We reverse in part and

remand in part with directions.

¶2          In August of 2011, Mother petitioned the court for temporary removal of the parties'
minor child to Ohio in order to accept a career position. The circuit court granted temporary
removal on August 15, 2011. On June 27, 2013, after a trial on the issues of removal,

custody, child support, maintenance, and debt allocation, the court entered a judgment of
dissolution of the parties' marriage. In the judgment, the court denied Mother's request for
permanent removal of the minor child and entered two alternate rulings concerning the award


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of legal and physical custody and visitation. Under the first alternative, Mother had to return

to Illinois within 30 days. If she did so, she would retain primary physical custody of the
parties' minor child, and Mother and Father would be awarded joint custody. Father,
however, would have the ultimate decision-making authority regarding any and all medical,
dental, educational, and extracurricular decisions pertaining to their minor son. Under the
second alternative, if Mother chose not to return to Illinois within 30 days, Father would be

granted sole legal custody of the child with Mother having only visitation rights and no

decision-making authority concerning their son. The court also refused Mother's request for
maintenance if she were required to relocate.
¶3     Mother filed her notice of appeal on July 11, 2013. Concurrently she sought in the

circuit court a stay of the judgment pending appeal. Her request for a stay was denied.
Mother then filed a motion for stay of the judgment pending appeal with this court on July

15, 2013. We granted her stay on July 22 subject to specific requirements for Father's

visitation. We now address the merits of the appeal and reverse, in part, the court's judgment

of dissolution of marriage.

¶4     The parties met in the fall of 2007 when Mother was visiting friends in Texas where
Father then resided. They became friends and began dating in 2009. By December of 2009,
Father moved to Chicago to live with Mother. They were married in April 2010. Their

marriage produced one child, a son who is now three years old. Mother, who has a degree

in business administration with a concentration in marketing, held a full-time position as a
project manager at a Chicago advertising agency. She had worked for the same agency for
five years. While working full-time for the advertising agency, she also worked part-time

at Home Depot in order to save money and pay down debt. Father was unemployed when
he moved in with Mother in Chicago and did not obtain employment until May of 2010,
when he acquired a position with a mortgage servicing firm.


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¶5     During the summer of 2010, the parties discussed moving closer to Mother's parents

in Maryville, Illinois, after their child was born. Father believed it was important to have
their child raised near family. Once they moved, the intent was for Father to obtain more
lucrative employment and for Mother to be a stay-at-home mom. The plan included their
living with Mother's parents until Father obtained a higher-paying job, thereby allowing them
to afford their own housing. Accordingly, within two weeks of the child's birth, the parties

relocated from Chicago, moving into the basement of the home of Mother's parents. Mother

resigned from her position with the advertising agency in Chicago, while Father was
permitted to transfer his employment to another office of the same company in the St. Louis
metropolitan area. Unfortunately, the parties separated less than two months later.

¶6     After Father left, Mother and the minor son continued to live with Mother's parents.
Having no income or any other viable source of funds on which to support herself and the

child, Mother found part-time work at a nearby Home Depot in January 2011. She then

began searching for full-time employment in marketing. She applied to approximately 30

companies for positions in marketing and advertising, all within the St. Louis metropolitan

area. Unfortunately, she received no offers for employment within the metropolitan area.
She did receive an offer, however, from an agency in Columbus, Ohio. If Mother accepted
the new position, she would be earning more than she had previously earned at the agency

in Chicago. The company also agreed to pay Mother's relocation expenses and provide

temporary housing for two months. Other incentives included good health benefits, annual
bonuses, and room for advancement. The community in which they would live offered
high-quality housing at reasonable prices and had one of the best school systems in Ohio.

Having been offered no full-time positions in the metropolitan area in her field, and needing
a steady source of income, Mother petitioned the court for leave to temporarily remove the
parties' son to Ohio to begin this new position. Her petition was granted and, accordingly,


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Mother and son relocated to Ohio.

¶7     Further evidence presented at trial revealed that Mother's parents are retired and have
plans to relocate to Ohio to be near their daughter and grandson. Mother and her parents also
have extended family in Cincinnati, Ohio. Neither Mother nor Father has any other family
in the Maryville area. Mother grew up in the Kansas City area, while Father's family lives
in Colorado. At one point, Father expressed interest in moving back to Colorado. After

Mother moved to Ohio, Father changed employment in a lateral career move, although with

less pay, and now works in St. Louis, Missouri. He continues to reside in Collinsville,
Illinois, and believes he can maintain a relationship with Mother's parents should they remain
in Maryville, Illinois.

¶8     Father presented at trial numerous instances of Mother's alleged controlling
personality with respect to the parties' minor son. For example, Mother insisted on knowing

the make and model of car seat Father purchased for their son and required him to show her

the receipts. Mother, however, explained that Father's family often acquired older, used

items for the child, and she wanted to ensure that the car seat used was safe. Mother also

refused Father overnight visitation with the child for the first year. Mother explained that she
was still breast-feeding him and did not have a reserve supply of milk for that length of time.
As the guardian ad litem reported, Mother was a very organized individual with a more rigid

personality, whereas Father had a more relaxed personality. According to the guardian ad

litem, Mother was more overly protective as a new mother, as opposed to trying to control
Father, and was not trying to interfere with Father or Father's relationship with his son. The
guardian ad litem also reported that the parties' minor son was bonded and comfortable with

each parent in each location. Despite the distance and hectic visitation schedule, the child
has developed a good bond with Father. Additionally, despite their differences in parenting
styles and personalities, collectively, the parties were doing a great job in fostering their son's


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development. The court chose not to follow the recommendations of the guardian ad litem

and denied Mother's request for permanent removal of the parties' son. We now reverse that
decision.
¶9     The primary consideration in any custody dispute is the best interest and welfare of
the child. In re Marriage of Quindry, 223 Ill. App. 3d 735, 737, 585 N.E.2d 1312, 1314
(1992). Likewise, the most important question in removal cases is whether the move is in

the best interests of the child. In re Marriage of Pribble, 239 Ill. App. 3d 761, 767, 607

N.E.2d 349, 353 (1993). A trial court's determination as to the best interests of the child will
not be reversed on appeal unless that determination clearly is against the manifest weight of
the evidence and it appears that a manifest injustice has occurred. In re Marriage of Eckert,

119 Ill. 2d 316, 328, 518 N.E.2d 1041, 1046 (1988). In this instance, the trial court denied
Mother's request to permanently remove the parties' minor son to Ohio, stating that Mother

had not met her burden of proving that removal was in the best interests of the child. More

importantly, the court determined that the only way Mother could retain primary physical

custody of the child was for her to move back to Illinois within 30 days. We agree with

Mother that this decision was against the manifest weight of the evidence. We also take
issue with the court's alternative custody orders.
¶ 10   The parties separated within three months of moving to Maryville from Chicago. At

that point, Mother was not employed. She was able to continue living with her parents in

their basement, but this arrangement was not a long-term resolution for either Mother or her
son. To make ends meet while searching for a position in advertising, Mother began working
part-time at Home Depot. The job with Home Depot was not a career position that would

utilize her education and work experience, nor could it adequately provide financially for her
and her son. She applied to approximately 30 companies for permanent employment in her
career field and received only one offer. While the position offered was quite lucrative,


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allowed Mother to be financially independent, and would improve the overall quality of life

for both Mother and the child, the position was in another state, Ohio. The trial court
believed Mother's acceptance of the position and the move to Ohio was premature, as she had
only looked four months for a position in the metropolitan area which would have allowed
two active parents in the child's life. The court discounted Mother's job search and her desire
to remain in the advertising field. This was error. A custodial parent is not required to

exhaust all employment opportunities in Illinois before seeking employment out of state. In

re Marriage of Ludwinski, 312 Ill. App. 3d 495, 500, 727 N.E.2d 419, 424 (2000). Mother's
motives for seeking removal to Ohio were rooted in her desire to obtain gainful employment
that offered the potential for professional growth and advancement, not to keep the parties'

son from Father as the trial court implied. See In re Marriage of Bhati, 397 Ill. App. 3d 53,
63-64, 920 N.E.2d 1147, 1155 (2009); In re Marriage of Parr, 345 Ill. App. 3d 371, 378-79,

802 N.E.2d 393, 400-01 (2003); In re Marriage of Ludwinski, 312 Ill. App. 3d at 501, 727

N.E.2d at 424. Mother specifically stated she did not even apply for the position in Ohio

initially because it was not in the area. Simply because Mother and Father have trouble

agreeing on the mechanics of Father's visitation does not mean that Mother has an insincere
motive for her move. Additionally, there is no evidence that the problems the parties have
with time-sharing and communication would not still exist even if they lived near each other,

as was the situation originally. The guardian ad litem and the parties all agree that the child

is thriving at his daycare and his home in Ohio in general. He is living in a good home with
a number of nearby amenities including parks, a community swimming pool, high-quality
schools, and homes with younger children. Mother has extended family in Ohio as well, and

her parents are trying to sell their home in Maryville so they can move to Ohio and be closer
to their grandchild. We also note, as Mother contends, that if she had found a job in Chicago
and relocated there initially, the commute would have been similar in time and distance as


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that to Ohio. There would have been no court oversight regarding the move, and Mother's

motives for improving her life as well of that of the child would not have been questioned.
Any removal will have an effect on the noncustodial parent's visitation. This does not mean
that removal should be denied as long as a reasonable and realistic schedule can be created.
In re Marriage of Eaton, 269 Ill. App. 3d 507, 515, 646 N.E.2d 635, 642 (1995).
¶ 11   We are also troubled by the court's fashioning of alternative custody orders. Again,

if Mother returns to Illinois within 30 days, she is allowed to keep primary physical custody

of the child. If she chooses not to return to Illinois within 30 days, she loses that physical
custody. Such an alternative order implies that the minor child's best interest will literally
change overnight, depending on whether Mother opts to relocate to Illinois within 30 days

or stay in Ohio. Such an immediate and radical shift in the determination of what constitutes
the "best interests" of the child in a custody proceeding is not contemplated by the kind of

alternative order entered by the trial court. It certainly is not contemplated by section 602 of

the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act (750 ILCS 5/602 (West 2010)), which

requires a detailed analysis of those factors to be considered when entering a custody award.

Here, the court ignored the statutory mandate and placed Mother in an impossible situation
by creating an "either or" decree that had very little to do with the "best interests" of the
child. We also do not understand why, given some of the reasons upon which the court based

its decision to require Mother to return to Illinois immediately, the court would allow Mother

to retain primary physical custody at all, particularly in light of the fact that the court also
gave Father sole decision-making authority over their son. Moreover, for Mother to comply
with the court's order to return to Illinois in order to retain primary custody, she will

compromise both the financial stability and security of herself and her son. If she returns to
Illinois, the present custody and visitation schedule will remain essentially unchanged, but
the child will be uprooted from the home and daycare he has now known for over two years.


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Additionally, as maintenance was denied, Mother will have no income with which to provide

for the child, other than child support. Forcing Mother to choose between being gainfully
employed or being unemployed in order to have primary custody of her son cannot be in the
best interest of the child. We further have trouble with the court's decision to allow Father
to have the sole decision-making power for the child, whether or not Mother returns to
Illinois. We fail to see how this is in the child's best interest, especially when such a decision

undoubtedly will result in additional changes given that Father has exhibited ambivalence

toward a number of decisions regarding his son's well-being. For instance, the child's
pediatrician recommended that the child see certain specialists regarding potential health
issues. Father refused to agree to the visits or testing, believing them to be overkill. Father

also refused to switch the child to Mother's insurance, despite the fact it would save him
hundreds of dollars a month, because he believed he would not have sufficient information

about the child from Mother's health insurance. Yet, Mother has signed all necessary

releases for Father to have complete information and has followed all court orders.

Undoubtedly, the court viewed Mother as using the child to control Father. Clearly Mother

and Father have different personalities and styles of living. Father is more laid back and
relaxed in his approach. Mother, who admittedly has a more rigid personality, is dedicated
to the child's best interest, from his nutrition and healthcare to his daycare, schooling, and

personal safety. This is not unnatural in light of the fact that she is a first-time mother and

has primary physical custody of the child. Under the circumstances presented, we conclude
that the court's ruling was arbitrary and against the manifest weight of the evidence.
¶ 12   We also find fault with the court's denial of temporary maintenance if we were to

uphold the court's decision. Given that Mother was ordered to return to Illinois within 30
days in order to retain primary physical custody, an award of, at a minimum, temporary
maintenance would have been in order. If Mother agreed to return, she would have been


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faced not only with relocation expenses but also with the loss of her full-time income. While

the parties' marriage was not long in duration, and Mother is more than capable of supporting
herself, she would not have been able to do so immediately once she was forced to give up
another lucrative career position. Clearly the court's order was unjustified if Mother were
forced to return to Illinois. Given that we are reversing the denial of Mother's request for
permanent removal of the child to Ohio, and, as a result thereof, Mother will not need

maintenance, we need not address the issue any further.

¶ 13   We turn next to the issue of the credit card debt incurred by both parties. Mother paid
the entire bill and only sought reimbursement for Father's expenditures. The court allocated
the entire debt to Mother because she failed to meet her burden of proof at trial as to the

specific dollar amount owed. The court, however, also assured Mother at trial that having
the specific amount listed in her position statement was sufficient. We agree with Mother

that it is equitable to require Father to pay for his portion of the marital debt incurred. Given

that Mother agreed at trial to a figure of $2,000 as the amount Father owed, an amount

representing almost half of the debt, we modify the court's judgment to reflect that Father is

to reimburse Mother $2,000 for the credit card debt incurred during the marriage.
¶ 14   Mother also finds fault with the court allowing certain testimony pertaining to what
she terms "settlement negotiations" between the parties, as found in numerous emails, text

messages, and written letters sent over the course of the dissolution proceedings. The court

did not admit the emails, texts, or letters themselves, but allowed them to be read verbatim
over counsel's numerous objections. The court also did not allow Mother's counsel time to
retrieve the entire file of such correspondence in order to present individual messages in the

proper context. Mother argues that it was impossible for any finder of fact to ignore the
contents of such messages, used to portray Mother as being uncooperative, even if they were
not admitted into evidence. As a general rule, matters concerning settlement negotiations are


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not admissible. See Liberty Mutual Insurance Co v. American Home Assurance Co., 368 Ill.

App. 3d 948, 960, 858 N.E.2d 530, 540 (2006). Given our resolution of the case, however,
we find the error to be harmless. It is clear to everyone that the parties have difficulty
agreeing to visitation and travel arrangements. The parties do not need to spend any more
time in court or expend any more attorney fees just to rehash this issue.
¶ 15   While we reverse the court's decision denying Mother's request for permanent removal

of the minor child to Ohio, we regretfully are forced to remand this cause for additional

proceedings. We, however, are remanding this cause on the sole issue of visitation. We are
not in a position to set up a workable visitation schedule given that the child, now older, will
be entering school in the near future. We urge the court to take into account that even with

the parties' disagreements, they have raised a healthy, happy, well-adjusted toddler who is,
and has been, thriving in his present living environment and custody arrangement for the past

two years. As the guardian ad litem recognized, the parties are able to resolve most issues.

We strongly encourage the court to seriously consider the thorough report of the guardian ad

litem and his recommendations for a reasonable visitation schedule in fashioning a new

workable arrangement for the parties, while taking into account the overall best interests of
the minor child. As noted in In re Marriage of Parr, the quality of a parent-child relationship
need not be adversely affected just because that relationship becomes a long-distance one.

In re Marriage of Parr, 345 Ill. App. 3d at 379, 802 N.E.2d at 400.

¶ 16   In summary, we are reversing the court's alternative custody orders and are allowing
Mother to remain in Ohio and retain primary physical custody of the parties' minor child
while granting joint custody to Mother and Father. In light of this ruling, we are denying

Mother maintenance, but we are requiring Father to reimburse Mother the sum of $2,000 for
credit card debt incurred by both parties. Finally, we are remanding this cause for further
proceedings on the issue of visitation only in order to set up a realistic, workable visitation


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schedule that allows both parties to continue to be a part of the minor child's life. All

remaining issues not addressed are affirmed.


¶ 17   Reversed in part, affirmed in part, and modified in part; cause remanded in part with
directions.




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                                    2013 IL App (5th) 130349

                                          NO. 5-13-0349
                                             IN THE
                               APPELLATE COURT OF ILLINOIS
                                  FIFTH DISTRICT
___________________________________________________________________________________
      In re MARRIAGE OF                     )     Appeal from the
                                            )     Circuit Court of
      KATHERINE A. SMITH,                   )     Madison County.
                                            )
           Petitioner-Appellant,            )
                                            )
      and                                   )     No. 10-D-1340
                                            )
      CHASE W. SMITH,                       )     Honorable
                                            )     Ben L. Beyers II,
           Respondent-Appellee.             )     Judge, presiding.
___________________________________________________________________________________

Opinion Filed:        December 2, 2013
___________________________________________________________________________________
Justices:          Honorable Judy L. Cates, J.

                 Honorable Stephen L. Spomer, P.J., and
                 Honorable Bruce D. Stewart, J.,
                 Concur
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Attorneys        Barbara L. Sherer, Amanda G. Highlander, Sherer Law Offices, 205 North Second
for              Street, Suite 102, Edwardsville, IL 62025
Appellant
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Attorney         Frederick M. Steiger, Steiger Law Offices, 215 South Main Street, Edwardsville, IL
for              62025
Appellee
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